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i need help im going to just throw it all out there i was married and i started working with a guy that was also married we ended up sleeping together and then we left both of our spouses about 4 months his called and wanted him back he left me at home and went and saw her he also had sex with her when he finally came home he told me what had happend and that he didnt want to leave if i didnt want him to and of course i didnt i love no matter how we got together. at first i was ok with everything and then slowly it has creeped its way into my mind all the time to the point where i dont trust him at all i love him and i dont want to leave but if we keep this up we wont be together much longer please help me give me advice how to start trusting again

I don't see how you can trust him as this is the second time he has been unfaithful in four months. First with you then with his wife...

I can't give you advice on how to trust him again, because maybe it isn't safe to trust him. He needs to earn your trust.

Maybe this isn't a relationship that is going to work out. I suggest no matter what that you talk with someone, therapist or minister or other trained mental health person.

How are you doing yourself, how is your own mental and physical health? This is an important time to make double sure that you get enough sleep, rest, exercise, food.

The two of your need to acknowledge there are trust problems. If you say you do not trust him, he may remind you that you strayed too. Tell him what he must do for you to trust him. He, in turn, will tell you what you must do. Then both of you must follow through.

If you continue to question his trustworthiness despite him doing what you have asked of him, you will have a decision to make. Perhaps, more conditions; or ending the relationship.

If he did it with you, he will do it to you. Your relationship started with deceit and it will undoubtedly end that way.

I wish you the best.

Trust is a major part of any loving relationship, in fact any relationship and he has played at least once on his wife then on you and players rarely change.

A player doesn't seem to have any rules when it comes to what they want and when they want it. I hope you sort it out

Rhian