Cancelled both match.com and eHarmony

No one is interested in dating a disabled person. I didn't list anything about being disabled at first, and of course none of my photos gave me away. As soon as I disclosed it, everyone dropped me online.

I just closed both accounts after being with them for years...with no contacts. Oh well.

hey (JD)....please don't give up....I'm on the match.com and not getting really respond back....nothing has happened yet....I'm sure somebody is out there for you sweety....just don't give up....
try meetup.com then you can meet new people without pressure of dating....you just will meet them as a friend first.....
take care....my heart is with you....
Marjan

Now THAT, JD, is ROTTEN. What about a new site just for people with disabilities? (However you want to define that.) But there would have to be good protection against those who would prey on very lonely, very distressed disabled people. Do you think such a thing would be feasible?

Take care.

Don't give up so easily. There is someone for EVERYONE.

Thanks Jenkins, and Marjan ... but I've been a member at those sites for many YEARS. No responses... no one has ever winked at me (well, I take that back... there are perverts from out of the state or country that are too young to be members I think...) and no one has even tagged my profile as "interesting" to them and noted it for later. I'm just not a keeper. lol

Ygrec ... have thought about that... guess our service dogs would have to get along also

(going to go search for such a site........)

I have also been a member of other dating sites too... for Christians. Man did that ever depress me!

I dropped Match and Eharmony about 5 or 6 years ago. I met some men that way, but it was stressful...more than stressful, actually it was downright awful. I think you've done a good thing. I looked at your profile and saw your pic, btw, and I think you're very attractive. I think if you want to meet men, there must be other ways...though I haven't found any.
Patty

i hate dating over the internet to.it's worse then meeting men in bars.i to think nobody wants to date me because i'm disabled.plus people can't tell i'm disabled by just looking at me.have had a few people excuse me of faking epilepsy,depression and other health related issues i have.the last few months i have had shoulder injury from falling down my apartment stairs and had shoulder surgery back in march.i got excused of faking a shoulder injury by a few clueless jerks.plus a few said i was wearing my sling to much and that i'm just looking for attention.i do attend epilepsy support groups.but the few guys at the support groups are perverts.

Dear (((((((JD)))))))),

Why don't you start your own meetup site for people with disabilities? You can download the simple machines forum (it's free) and send messages to everyone you know and I'm sure people on this forum would join you can have friendship and dating. You would know how it works because this forum is the Simple Machines Format...give it a thought, I think you'd be brilliant at hosting because you are fun, friendly and caring,

http://http://www.simplemachines.org/

Loving thoughts,

Rhian

I joined eHarmony. I had no matches. Not even one.

Unfortunately, some folks here the term "disabled" and they get it confused for "unabled" or "I don't want to work, I just want to be supported". It really can tend to scare people off.

I generally wait until I've spent some quality time with someone and I feel that there is a mutual spark before I say anything, that way the person can get to know you for you, and not your disability and they would hopefully feel a bit more invested in the relationship. Sometimes you just have to fly solo for a while though, but that can be fun too. Put on some nice music, draw yourself a warm bubble bath, poor yourself a glass of wine, light some candles and soak your troubles away.

If it's the physical relationship that you are craving, you can always compensate with the occasional game of "Solitaire", if you know what I mean. Just make sure you have plenty of batteries!! LOL!!!

Sorry this is happening, (JD).

Actually, it is not the physical sexual aspect of a relationship that I crave. Of course, that's a big issue for guys, to be sure, and might be the underlying reason they drop out or not make contact in the first place. It doesn't matter that they can't (as if it would be proper anyway) ask about that directly, because it's not a very good possibility in my life.

Yeah, so only a disabled guy would be interested in me. I went and looked at a few sites for disabled people's dating. Very small membership, of course. No try it "lite" before you buy either.

Thanks for your comments, and support.

I'm a volunteer with the Boy Scouts ... plenty of men of all kinds there ... the good ones are taken as usual.

I've been totally alone for 17 years, and semi alone for 10 before that even though married (he traveled) . Guess I need to resign myself to the idea that I will die alone, too.

It's just tough, as I know you know. I have no one to talk with except my health care support team members. And yes, though they have been there for nearly the entire 24 years of my disability, it's a few minutes to an hour at a pop, and I pay them for it.

I eat every meal alone. I do talk with the restaurant service personnel ... and I appreciate them putting up with me.

I do now have an assistant that comes in every week. But she needs to do stuff for me, not stand and chat. Though I do make her sit and chat with me at times!

There are many days ... like the weekends ... when I speak to no one for the whole day or two. This being a long weekend, it will be for 3 days in a row.

I have been requesting a wheelchair accessible van from the insurance company for nearly 5 years ... and a stronger push this year. I am mobile, but to get out and walk the zoo, or go to a ball game ... I need the chair.

Ok I'm ranting.

((((((((((((((((((((((JD)))))))))))))))))))))

Rhian,
xx