[sociohelp]

HI :],
I have a couple of questions; I had been with my bf for 3 yrs, one day I decided to break it off with him because he was very possesive. I started dating this other man (Levi) he invited me to a crawfish broil, i met his friends...but it was like stepping into a twilight zone; he would apologize for his car, his house, everything; and he would feel the need to have to tell me who all he slept with at the party; i thought he was insecure...anywho..he was a tutor at my school age 31 was married but had gotten divorced 3 yrs prior after 4 months...he took me out during lunch every day, and would see me every night after work for an hr at the park or whatever..some days we'd go to his house and have sex, and we hung out during the weekend...my ex ended up calling the school to complain, but levi told me he was staff and nothing could happen...his boss had a meeting with him and he seemed really worried...i ended up ending it with him...he called this one week fling a relationship....and would make references to marriage "if we got that far" even when i stated that im 20 and have no interest in marriage or kids lol...my ex ended up going to the school the saturday before his meeting to talk to levi...which annoyed me...a couple weeks later.. i wanted to see if he was still interested he told me he thought he was ready for a relationship but thought wrong, and that he wasnt going to jepordize his job which is understandable..a week later i hook up with of my friends (dara) who i knew had a fling with Levi, i read all the text he sent to her, he owed her 3,000$ that she lent him...he would lie about having leukemia, and being bank rupt...he even moved so he didnt have to pay...(this was after i spoke with him)...he saw dara two times out of the week just for sex, would change plans on her...with me he would hold off on hanging with his friends to spend time with me....he never called dara a relationship, after 4 months when she wanted one he ran...he ended up making rumors about her, saying she was psychotic and that she took advantage of him (wow)...he doesnt have many friends, if they do they have problems, he isolates himself and reads all the time, very dull, no sense of humor, he said he was a nurse and was let off because of lack of compassion for people...he told my dad that (yea he met my family) he was an e7 in the Navy, which is a lie...he told me he applied for the FBI...I was blind, good thing it only lasted a week but it still bothers me...he creeps me out now...when he found out that i was with dara he changed his number and blocked me on facebook....lol....i dont know what he says about me...theres this other asian girl that he says is his stalker, when we were dating and that she needed an lobotomy...i know now that she was another **** buddy like dara...my question would have be : what did he want from me? he saw me every day of the week whenever he could... If he liked me alot then why did he run and get paranoid? he told me that one of his closest friends said "you must really like her to be putting up with that" (the bf crap) i know it was a week, but its still confusing...later on i also realized that he was massivly the jealous type...he was ok with me (or hid it) hanging out with my ex 2 days out of that week till late at night...i wouldnt necessarliy respond back to some of his text...i did alot of manipulation that was wrong and immature but still hes a CREEP!...im just creeped out with what he saw in me? maybe he thought i was like him? making marriage references the first week is weird....i just dont understand how if u like someone that much...how you could just drop it?? thanks sorry its long, i just need help:[

[Rhiannonsmoon]

You are SO better off without this guy, turn around and run, not walk away. Whatever his problems are they aren't yours and you should be thankfull. He's a liar and manipulator of the worst order and you just don't need that...no one needs that,

Rhiannon

PS: may I ask a favour please? If possible break your posts into paragraphs, I have epilepsy and trying to read all that in one go with no visual break between the words is very very hard...I would really appreciate it if you could break them up...

[Perna]

I don't understand why you are still thinking about this unstable person, why you "care" why he does what he does. You don't want to be with him and he doesn't want to be with you. Who cares what happened back there, I would move on. You can't glue together a broken plate with pieces missing.

[bridgie]

Ok so they are correct if he is a sociopath get away asap. Now I have a similar problem with caring about what a sociopath thinks and he's said and done. You will never understand because their reality is not what reality is. They do lie take money try and get all they can and then move on or try and be with multiple ppl same time. I am seeing this happen right now. I can't fathom how he does it and I'm bothered too but it was a week and he was creepy. You found out fast count that a blessing. Try to calm and clear your mind of him if you can and just stay away from him. Only bring negativity into your life. Sorry you had to meet someone like that.

I think your question is: ..."With all that history why was he good to me?"....."Does it mean I'm like him?."...the answer is "no!"....."BUGS"...are drawn to the light...you are the light ...wash your hands of it, and look behind you ....lol.~Don't assume you have a bad thing in you that created this.Its the good in you.~Safe hugs hun~

[sociohelp]

yea i dont even give him the time of the day anymore...lol... but why would anyone reference marriage on the first week? why did he want a relationship with me? and seeing me everyday? (which was annoying) he didnt do this with dara...which is weird...maybe he wanted to try to be normal...i couldnt give him anything, because im just a college student living with my parents with no money lol.. he also put up with a lot than he usually does after i really found out who he really was..