Do we have a future?

Here's the deal, I've been dating this girl that I went to college with, since december of '09, the only thing is, we've only sort of been out twice. She lives in a different town, its only 50 miles away, so I feel like I should be going to see her more often. We stay in communication pretty constantly, but its mostly via text, and she works such weird hours, its hard to find a time to make an actual phone call. In fact, most of the time, she answers my texts ending with the phrase "I'm working now," but she still always gets back to me. Then theres me, who cant even hold down a "real job." Now, I know that we have issues, with distance and all, but who doesnt. My question is, does it sound like we might be able to work them out, and have a future together?

Hi hippyman!

I wonder if you are putting the cart before the horse a bit? I would think that you both need to be more than texting partners to figure out if there is a future between you.

There is nothing better than phone calls and face to face connections to figure out if you are compatible. I would pick up the phone and call her to set up a date. If she's working and can't talk, then ask when a good time to call is, or ask her to call you when she can. If she doesn't give you a time or doesn't call you back I would say the chances are slim for an ongoing relationship other than texting.

I wish you luck and hope it works out the way you want it to!

What Sabby said!

Yeah, what _sabby_ said.

Ditto, what Sabby said!

I believe you can make any situation work but the operational word is "work".

You *need* more face time and more communication than that. For all you know, she has you on the back burner, a "just in case" fall-back guy. A long distance relationship only works when both partners are on the same page. Also, yes, you should be more stable in your own life before pursuing a very serious relationship. I'm not saying that just from a financial aspect. You have to be more solid in terms of who you are and where you are in life in order to be a fulfilling partner to someone else.

Thats the thing, this whole thing got started with face to face communication, a candle-lit dinner at her place actually, followed by a movie. Although, u may be right, I do have a tendency to jump the gun, it just seems so right, since we've known each other so long. More than anything, I just want to see more of her.

To me....the answer is simple....pick up the phone, dial it, put it up to your ear and make that connection! You have a 50/50 chance of it going positive

Good luck hippyman!

Again what _sabby_ said...

Face the fear and do it anyway...you will either get the romance moving or you can move on...just tell her you want to see more of her, if she says she can't do that it means it is time for you to just move on with dignity...

Rhiannon

I agree with Sabby.