Dumped again

(((lostandlonely)))

You just have to jump in the deep end (I'm doing that just now and it's scary and horrible - but full of good bits too). When you are blind sided by an ex, it really takes it out of you. Everything is going along soooooo well.. and then they drop the bomb.. arrrgggghhhh !!!
Trusting yourself is harder than trusting other people. I don't trust my ability to see what is happening in relationships any more or see situations for what they are.. so you just have to have blind faith

Plus everyone here on PC os simply brilliant to pick up the pieces many times over xx

I near fainted when I saw the thread title and saw Belles name there! I thought "WHAT!? NO! I don't believe he did that!"

I'm really sorry I then realised that it was lost & lonelys thread and not Belles. I'm sorry you feel so bad (((( (((( (((( ((((lost&lonely)))) )))) )))) ))))

I won't post again and you're also free to not post on a public forums personal details about your actions and then get upset when someone tells you something you don't want to hear, or at least be clear in your message that you only want to hear from people who will 100% take your side. If the relationship was everything you described, you would still be together and not posting here. Denial. Be upset at me all you want, that's not going to solve anything, the real issue is still there. Best of luck.

(((Envision))) we are here to help not to make each other feel worse.....She's already in pain....please don't add up to her misery....That's not good!!

(((lostandlonely))) stay strong you will be just fine.....we all have those up and downs in the relationships....try to stay focus and do what you like, then that special person will get into your life out of nowhere.....

I'm so familiar with all the fear and anxiety you have.....as long as I remember I've been in not good relationships.....and I was hurt after the breakups, but still again I go for it....as Belle said that you got to just dive into it.....right into the ocean and not be afraid of sharks.....

Another thing that helped me a lot during my depressing days was watching comedies.....I love Friends mostly because they have so many misfortunes and they still okay and keep going with their life and it makes me laugh watching them.....yes, I was burring myself under the movies.....not letting my brain to think about that guy too much....I was either exercising or reading or watching movie....something to not think about at all.....

take care and write back to us
Marjan

Envision, your timing for starting to criticise someone who's suffering is really terrible. There's no need.

lostandlonely, one thing I find that helps when you're feeling down is to just keep active. Allow yourself to feel sad, but try and act otherwise even if you don't feel like it. Arrange to meet up with old friends, join some local clubs/societies and try and keep socially active. Not only does it distract you from brooding about the bad stuff all the time but it can also lead you to feel better about yourself just through having some meaningful interactions with other people.

Really sorry to hear how upset you're feeling but it will get better if you just hang in there.

Lost and Lonely, How are you doing?

Sorry?

This came out of left field. Lost needs support and is looking for it.

She didn't say from what I have read, that everything is a guys fault or responsibility.

And when we are first attracted to someone we have no idea of their personality type, problems or issues. So her question as to why she attracted those types is a valid question.

You are showing yourself to be much less than supportive and lost doesn't need that right now, she is in pain and is hurting.

It isn't a matter of agreeing with the poster, it is a matter of agreeing with what one agrees with, and disagreeing with what one disagrees with. Calling people sheep in that regard is an insult.

Im realy sorry for what has happened to you.I know how you feel but the thing is that he thought he wasnt in any relationship but he was .cuz he acted like your bf ,he is just lying to him self.The way you wrote I think you are loving and caring person and there are people who looking exactly for these qualities in a woman .And I think you better not having any relationship with him any more he has commitment problems for sure.Take care and know that you are not alone .