[niesha]

What does it mean when your boyfriend tells you out the blue that another girls like him, and he just volunteered to tell her name where she was from and how old she was?please help

[la doctora]

I don't think anyone can tell you exactly what it means without knowing more details about your relationship and your bf's personality. From what you wrote, it sounds like he is being very honest with you. That is much more info than most guys would share with their gf's if another girl showed interest in them. Also, the info he shared with you is normal info that you might find out when meeting a person for the first time. Regardless of her feelings toward your bf. Would you rather he kept the info from you and interacted with her behind your back? Perhaps he only wants to be honest with you so that you will feel you can trust him and won't worry what he is doing when you aren't around. I wouldn't over analyze this or worry too much unless you have a reason to suspect your bf is being unfaithful.

[niesha]

Thanx for the info, but I think its to late! Because yesterday when he was arpung me and my phone rung and he ask who it was and I said I don't know because the number was not programed in my phone.and then he said call them back cause they know you, and I knew who it was it was my foster brothe who I had not heard in years and I just did not want him to think anything, so he called the number back which was not my brothers phone but a guy on the vm came on and he said this was a guy, and I said well its my foster brother, he said I've never known you having a foster brother, which I never told him was because I had not heard from him in years.then I tried to show him a text message that I sent to my brother that would have proved it was my brother, and he said he didn't want to see and that I don't have to explain nothing to him! What do I do?

[la doctora]

Wow that's a tough situation. I'm really sorry that he misunderstood the situation. When he said that he didn't want to see the message and you don't have to explain anything to him, does that mean that he is mad and avoiding the situation, or is he saying he trusts you and doesn't need you to prove it? If he is angry, then perhaps give him a chance to cool down. Is there any way you could get a family member to confirm you have a foster bro? If he knows that is true he would probably understand why you said you didn't know whose number it was.

Trust is an essential part of a relationship. It has to be mutual. If you two don't trust each other I think you should ask yourself why. If you can't learn to trust each other the relationship will be hard to maintain.

[sunnyclouds]

Originally Posted by niesha

What does it mean when your boyfriend tells you out the blue that another girls like him, and he just volunteered to tell her name where she was from and how old she was?please help

It means he's being insensitive to your needs, and giving you too much information. It may mean that he is harboring some anger toward you, and is insensitive to your needs. Are you depressed often? On top of his being insensitive to your needs he's also insensitive to your feelings. Have you expressed your confusion over his behavior? Because, if he's doing this and your not expressing that this is bothering you, then there are two things happening, one he may be trying to get out of the relationship, two, he may be trying to get you to acknowledge him. He's doing it awkwardly and perhaps in a immature way, but he is certainly trying to get something out of you.

Do you have a good support system? A doctor? Any friends in which you could confide? Family member that you could talk to? Your feelings, your pain, your happiness, your strength, etc..is your responsibility. Surround yourself with support before approaching him with the question: why are you telling me these things? Be frank, gentle and open, and ready for any answer. You may not like the answer, and it may hurt tremendously, that's why you get the support system first. However, if it turns out well, they you should let him that his behavior was troublesome and the in the future, if he needs to talk to you about anything, he should say so, and not be childish about it. (you may substitute childish, if you like).

So let me ask you, why do you think he is saying to you by this? Not what he is saying, but why? Are you afraid to ask him why?

Be strong.

[sunnyclouds]

I'm a little confused now. Did the phone/foster brother event happen before or after he started to tell you there was a girl interested in him?

[Rhiannonsmoon]

Hello niesha,

This is an unsettling situation to be in and I hope it balances out very soon for you.

Think he is trying to make you insecure and is trying to see if you are jealous. Also think that he is acing like a kid of 16. Don't play the game and don't stress. If you have concerns that he is going to break up with you, ask him outright

[niesha]

That all of you guys for the info it was very informative to me, and all this happened after he told me about the girl. Well to day when I talked to him he let me explain and still did not want to see the text message that would confirm that it was my brother, he told me my word was good enough, and stop trying to think what he is thinking like he going to try and get back at me, which I was thinking that, he said that if I do that I'm not going to do anyhing to make myself mad.

[Rhiannonsmoon]

Glad you sorted it out...did you ask why he told you about the girl at college? he must have a reason for doing that...

[niesha]

Well when he started to tell me, he was talking about a friend of his that goes there and said he had a girlfriend who has been there for him and his friend was trying to talk to another girl and he said I'm glad he is not like that and those girls don't have nothing on me and that when he proceeded to tell me about her. So what you think?

[Rhiannonsmoon]

Methinks I am confused...

[niesha]

About what please let me know, I'm knew to this I signed up for this last night so I messages going everwhere

[Rhiannonsmoon]

LOL Sorry ((((niesha))))...You said your bf was telling you about a girl who liked him and he gave you her name, age and told you where she was (something similar to that)...

[Rhiannonsmoon]

What does it mean when your boyfriend tells you out the blue that another girls like him, and he just volunteered to tell her name where she was from and how old she was?please help

This It doesn't sound like he was telling you about another guy...

[niesha]

Right I just need to know when guys say stuff like this to you are they doing to see if will get jealous,or if they interested and how would react about I just don't know!