[firerescuer214]

my fiance recently had a miscarriage and we are trying to get through this... how do we do it??? it hard....

[Rhiannonsmoon]

Hello firerescue214, I met your fiance the other day in here somewhere.

Miscarriage is a very difficult thing to go through. I miscarried twins one at 5 months and the other at 8. It was devastating to lose those boys. I really feel for you and your finace.

Allow time to grieve and don't put a time limit on it; everyone is different some will be over it in weeks, others never get over it. Having some special peaceful place to go to dedicate to the baby helps; somewhere to think about the baby and somewhere you can walk away feeling as though you have spent time with the baby in spirit, helps.

Other than that all I can do is offer you support and tell you that I am so terribly sorry,

Rhiannon

[Brokenrestartbutton]

firerescuer214 I so feel for you! It is very hard! I have had 4 miscarriages all around the 12-16 week mark. I know it is a painful and lonely experience. It's hard not to self blame and close the world off.

There must be a support system in place. I know for me I wanted a lot of reassurance, cuddle time and therapy is always good. After my last and it tore me to pieces. I didn't have some one's shoulder to cry on (my ex had decided he was done trying with me, for lack of a better explanation.) and I felt very alone, confused and angry.

Since this is one of my main reasons for seeking therapy, I'm not sure that I can tell you how to "get over it", only can say that I support you and I understand how you are feeling.

[.:ronnie89:.]

we are going to make it hunny i promise... thank you for being there for me when i needed you most... i love you and i just want you to know that we will have a baby no matter what it takes..