[confusedpanda]

I have been dating a guy for 3 years now, he is a good boyfriend and has always been good to me. I wish I could say that our relationship had any real serious problems but it just does not. I am mainly worried about our lack of intimacy, I just do not feel as attracted to him as I use to. I love having him around I just don't know if I like him more as a friend and room mate or as a boyfriend.

To complicate things I meet a guy at a recent event that I went to that is very cute and also very nice. I would never cheat on my boyfriend, but I have been having conversations with this man that are possibly not appropriate. Nothing has happened but I can't say I don't want it to. I don't know if it is that I just need something sexual or what it is but I do not know how to deal with this.

I love my current boyfriend and can not imagine not having him in my life anymore, but I don't know if I want him in my life the way he is now. Has any one else had any thing like this happen? Is it possible to have a relationship like this and be friends afterwords? How do I tell him how I feel? Also will I regret not being with him after it all happens?

Please help me!

[bridgie]

I do believe that love changes as you grow as a couple. If its a spiced up sex life that you think you need try and do that with your bf and not with this other man. See if that makes a difference.

[Belle1979]

If you love your current boyfriend do as bridgie suggests.. bring the sexual spark back.
Love does change as the years get on... from fire and passion, to romance, to companionship love.

As for being friends with you current guy if he becomes your ex..... think about the pain it will cause him to see you with another and realise that friendship may not be possible for a VERY long time, if at all.

[Rhiannonsmoon]

Bridgie has given excellent advice and Belle is very sensible in her message to you