[hopeful2010]

I am totally in love with my best guy friend. He loves me also; however, he doesn't seem to recognize how wonderful things could be or maybe he does and I m just trying way too hard to begin something we are not ready to begin. He has been consistent in what I want in a guy nd has maade me smile, feel comfortable and makes me want to become a better person. We were together in the beginning of this year until his ex suddenly was released from prison. He then absorbed himself with her; despite the facts...I mde the biggest mistake ever by trying to help him with her in order not to lose him. About 2 months later what I had predicted was exactly what occurred...and no I never said anything to him to make him feel bad or worse about the situation! All I know is I do not know what to do next...should I distance myself from him or should I just continue with the way it is. We are having sex on occassion.

[Perna]

Hi, hopeful. I'm not sure I like this "friend". It sounds like he has the ex- and you; why should he change anything, put forth more effort to make the relationship with you any "better"? He has what he wants. It sounds like if he went back to an ex- that was released from prison that he's not as into you and you are into him. He shouldn't have to be "maneuvered" into being with you or not being "lost". I don't think you "have" him, I think he has you!

I would go find my own guy, that wants me only and isn't so much work.

[Rhiannonsmoon]

Again I'm with Perna. This guy sounds as if he's using you and it sounds as if you have allowed this in the hope that he would give himself to you but all he has done is take advantage of the fact that you were available to him.

Move forward and find a man of your own who will respect you and care for you

Rhiannon