[Jenn1fer82]

When I'm not in mood to have sex with my bf I'm open to telling him 'No I don't want to have sex babe' but he gets so upset. I try to comfort his ego afterwards but he still feels frustrated and rejected anyway. There are many reasons why I don't want to have sex at that very moment but he just doesn't understand and becomes so upset.
example:* My mind is preoccupied and can't focus while I'm having sex
*I don't want to have sex when he's been out or on his fames all night and then comes me as though I'm the last thing on his mind
*I'm tried
*I'm just not in the mood to have sex

This morning I felt he was lecturing me and it didn't make me feel good. Now I'm worried that every time I want to tell him 'no' I'll have to prepare to be lectured at. We have sex at least every two or three days so it's not like sex is non-existence. Many times I'll explain why I don't want to have sex hoping that it'll help him understand why I'm not in the mood so I don't leave him dumbfounded why I don't want to have sex.

It is frustrating when he doesn't understand why I don't want to have sex. I wish he wouldn't get so upset. Does anyone have experienced this before in a relationship and how have you dealt with it? Please send advices my way on how to communicate with him better.

[Rhiannonsmoon]

Hello Jenn,

This isn't really good....You are entitled to tell him no and be respected. And you are not bound to be lectured for it. You're a grown woman.

Hmmm...maybe this was one of the things his ex meant when she said "selfish"

Don't allow him to bully you and certainly don't let him say
"I know you don't want sex but would you mind laying down while I have some???"

Don't allow him to be uncaring in any way, pout your foot down and tell him right off that your body is to be respected and so are your mind and your decisions.

Take care,

Rhiannon