[isadora]

Ok so i'm still having little problems with my boyfriend i want to show him with action that i have change. I want to show him how much i love him and i wanna be with him forever. What kind of things i can do to show him? Also how to stop staring at other people ?

[Belle1979]

Originally Posted by isadora

Ok so i'm still having little problems with my boyfriend i want to show him with action that i have change. I want to show him how much i love him and i wanna be with him forever. What kind of things i can do to show him? Also how to stop staring at other people ?

((((isadora))) Going back to whatIi have written before, WHY do you need to change? He needs to love you for who you are and what you are.. not some fictional character that you are trying to turn yourself into I mean that in the nicest possible way.

If you really feel you need to show him how much you love him do it in small ways, a hug or kiss out of the blue, holding hands when every possible, cooking his fav meal.... Hope that helps xx Take care of yourself

[isadora]

Thanks belle i do those things but he fears that ima cheat on him later on and im not. He wants me to change just to stop staring at guys and i want to stop that what can i do?

[Belle1979]

Its natural to look atthe world around you and the people around you (I call it people watching and have great fun trying to figure out people just by looking at them LOL).
Do you really look at other guys or is it just something that he thinks you are doing? I'm not sure how you can stop looking at what is around you when you are in public places. Seems like he needs reassurance that you are not going to leave him, not now and not in the near future.
I have to say that eventually as you get older, the possessive behaviour that seems loving at the moment (as I see it, I could be very wrong) will eventually wear you down and you will just want to get out of the relationship. I hope that in this case I am wrong and he is just really scared of losing you... he needs to change his perception of what he thinks you are doing.. you are not staring at other guys, you are just looking at what is around you xxx

[isadora]

Well when i stare at others he thinks i might be checking them out and im not. What can i do to show him ?

[Belle1979]

I really don't know what you can do other than be loving towards him when you are out in public, make him feel like he is the only one that you want to be with (which is true ). Hold his hand, random kisses, smile at him, direct eye contact...

One other option (and this is to make you laugh hopefully) is to wear dark sunglasses... then he can't see where you are looking xxxx

[isadora]

Thank you so much im do those things and hopefully he can see that i do really love him alot and his my only one that i wanna be with! Ill tell you how it goes thank you so much again

[Belle1979]

No worries isadora xx take care of yourself xx

[isadora]

Aaww you take care too!

[QUEEN OF WANDS]

[QUOTEOne other option (and this is to make you laugh hopefully) is to wear dark sunglasses... then he can't see where you are looking xxxx ][/QUOTE] ,, seems very deceptive to me and from experience,the sunglasses would make him feel worse ,as if your trying to hide your looking...there is a difference,in my opinion,in the way you look at people..if you are just curious as to what is going on around you then take a look around..it is probably if you stop and stare at the people when he becomes so insecure,,if what the other people are doing have no impact on your activity at the time then who cares what everyone else is doing,paying attention to him and what you are doing together shows you are invested in the two of you..maybe it makes him feel like he is not enough to keep you interested in your life with him,or wishing for someone more physically attractive than him..past actions are are very hard to get over when someone tells you they changed,maybe he is looking for things that proves otherwise because he doesnt want to be hurt anymore and feel "good enough for you".he may have alot of anger..idk the way to prove to him you have changed but if in your heart you know you have he will have to eventually believe it or your relationship will continue to be a painful one....stop beating yourself up for the past and work on your future ..

[isadora]

Thanks Queens Of Wands im doing my best to show him. That he's the only one i want in my life. And that i dont want no other guy just him.

[Rhiannonsmoon]

((((isadora))))

The issue is his unfortunately and it goes much deeper than just jealousy. Something has happened to him that has developed his attitude into one that says if you look at someone else you must want them. Has he been cheated on before? Have you ever cheated on him?

Really you need to tell him that you love him and that is it, and that he needs to get it into his head that you have no desire for anyone else...Gawd one bloke's enough for anyone...

[isadora]

I have asked him if one of his past girlfriend cheated on him but he told me no. And i have never cheated on him. He justs wants me to show him i wanna be with him and that i would never cheat on him. In actions what could i do? How can i prove him with actions i love him and i only want him in my life?

isadora, the problem is his, so the solution must be his too. this is not something you can solve for him.

[isadora]

I feel like its mine to because of all my family used to be

i'm not quite following your sentence. your family used to be what?

[Ygrec23]

Dear Isadora,

I think Belle is giving you very, very good advice, and that you should listen to her. She obviously knows what she's talking about. Your boyfriend sounds very insecure about himself, fearing that his girlfriend is checking out other guys. So anything you can do to boost his ego (he's a very young guy) would probably be helpful. Guys grow out of that stage as they get older, but I assume he's around your age now, and I agree that's a problem age. It was for me and probably is for him. So anything you can do to make him feel good about himself would be a step in the right direction. Take care!

Old Guy

[isadora]

[QUOTE=bloom3;1461157]i'm not quite following your sentence. your family used to be what?[/QU well my mom cheated on my dad one time and my sis is kind of like that. Right now she's single. So thats the problem.

[isadora]

Thanks ygrec23 i agree belle has give me a good advice which ima try it saturday when i see him i really want him forever and i wanna be with him. He makes me feel safe loved caree he's so sweet i dont want to loose him. Thanks you again.

[QUOTE=isadora;1461348]

Originally Posted by bloom3

i'm not quite following your sentence. your family used to be what?[/QU well my mom cheated on my dad one time and my sis is kind of like that. Right now she's single. So thats the problem.

it sounds like you have learned from your family members' mistakes. it still sounds like this is really your bf's problem, isadora. my concern for you is that you will keep changing and changing and lose your true self in order to please him when no amount of change will assure him of your love because this is still his problem. your family members cheating is no reflection on you. it just isn't. please be true to yourself and not lose who you are in order to win a battle that can't be won.

[isadora]

Well thats true but i really love him hopefully i dont loose him thanks for the good advice bloom3

[Alluring Lady]

Hi Isadora,

You can show your love for someone in many ways. I am in a relationship before. We constantly celebrate our monthsary by going to movie house, fine dining date and alike. You just need to be creative. Another way also is to give attention by calling or texting somehow. But the most important thing is trust, love, communication and understanding. Good luck and be yourself.

[isadora]

Hello thanks i understand you where your coming from. I texts him all the times its like 24/7 and i have to show him that i care about him and that im always there for him when he needs me the most. I pay fully attiention to him when he is talking i tend to support him on everything and help him. I want him to see that he can trust me and that i love him cause i really do alot. Thanks again for the good advice And thanks to everyone else... take care..