havent had a relationship

5 years ago I had an accident and broke my back leaving a paraplegic. I can still stand and walk just as long as i have something sturdy to lean on. also for the last 5 yrs i have yet to have a date or an intimate relationship. im told im an extremely nice guy, godd looking and have a great personality. but everytime i ask for a date i get the same excuses. i have a boyfriend, i dont have time, im not looking for a relationship or i get out right stood up. some of these women i had gotten close to before i asked them out. then after i asked them out i never heard from them again. the problem is now with 5 yrs alone i no longer feel what or how to act even if i were to get a date. the more i am alone the more i feel alone.

I do not know why ladies are not dating you if you are as kind as you say. Maybe you are looking in all the wrong places. Maybe it is just not time for you yet. Maybe there is more for you to learn before the right lady comes along.
How do you feel about your self?
mlyn/larks

(((miller))) I am so sorry to hear this...as long as we are all here you are never alone. pm anytime you need to talk if you would like to

i don't think you've met the right woman. you sound like a very caring individual that would make a great mate for someone. don't give up. pat

Miller,

I can hear what you're saying. I had a friend at university who had been in a bad car accident and broke his back. He was good looking and a brave guy, but his life was changed.

He would get friendships with girls but he hated getting the 'sympathy' from them. He was still a proud guy. He preferred to be single.

A couple of years later I worked with young disabled people and some of them were in wheelchairs. This was different, and there were some full on relationships, and a marriage.

I could never advise you myself, as I am not in your position (although I have different problems). My feeling is that you are more likely to get a genuine relationship with someone who knows about the challenge that you face, and is not afraid of it.

I hope you'll stick around here, miller, it's an Ok place and we could talk again.

Cheers, M