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Aug 24, 2010, 02:19 PM
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Hi, I'm pretty new here so a bit of info: Diagnosis OCD, depression, anxiety, Bi-polar tendences... Female 42 Gay.
I'm a submissive to a fairly easy going female Dominatrix... We email daily several times and usually get together about every 2 weeks.... always at her dungeon, never at her home, we've been doing this for about 6 months. I do not think I am her only subbie. Two weeks ago she was diagnosed with breast cancer and the op was today. I'm so worried about her that I don't know what to do and it's affecting my sleep, eating and just about everything. I want to be there for her but she seems to have a very comparmentalised life and I don't think I'd be welcome in her other life.... Help! Any advice? |
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Aug 24, 2010, 04:35 PM
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Breast Cancer is very serious. You can show your support by being there for her on her terms. Do not ignore the cancer. Just ask her.... what can I do to help? If only to run some errands or pick up some groceries. You may find that this time can move your relationship into other directions.
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Aug 25, 2010, 02:01 AM
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I'm sorry your friend has cancer. It is a worrying diagnosis but also thesedays it is a much more treatable one than it used to ne. My sister recently underwent surgery too and then radiation, and so far all is clear. and that was with a 4+ diagnosis, which is almost a miracle.
Dominatrix' do compartmentalise their lives and they do not take kindly to people stepping out of their compartments. Send her a friendly get well card and let her know you are concerned for her, that will be more than enough for her and if she wants or needs anything else from you she will let you know. But don't step outside of your boundaries or she'll be as pissed as hell
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Aug 25, 2010, 02:21 AM
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I'm sorry to hear your Dom has cancer. Just try to be helpful and don't push too much. Any time my master was sick I'd practically have a horse. I was always worried, whether it was a big deal or not, so I know how you feel.
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Aug 25, 2010, 02:00 PM
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 Thanks, you've given me stuff to think about.... I need to reign in my instincts to want to rush in and help, you're right about her getting pissed...
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Aug 25, 2010, 02:02 PM
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Thanks! It's nice to know I'm not the only one.....
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Aug 25, 2010, 10:52 PM
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No problem
It's always good to know somone that understands your mental space. That's why we're here 
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