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i let my mum know that i am now in a relationship with someone. the thing is, is that i let her know through a note that i wrote to her. i had to do it this way because i felt very uncomfortable telling her this. she had a rant at me because i couldnt actually tell her about it. but for me it was very hard to tell her. she didnt understand that i felt embrassed about it.
when i let her know she was nearly the last person to know as people at work know. she wasnt best pleased i can understand this but i just dont feel comfortable in talking to her about this.

Props to you for actually telling her! Ok, so you did it through a note...you found the courage to tell her yourself in your own way. It may be awkward around her for awhile because she may be hurt you felt as is you couldn't come talk to her and that is just her ntural reaction. You have to stay true to you and enjoy the fruits of your relationship! Hugs.

what makes it so uncomfortable to tell your mom you are seeing someone? you dont have to get into details or anything. what about this relationship is embarrassing?

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I know how hard that was for you to tell her. I have been reading your posts and I know that she has been a little difficult for you to handle and you were afraid of telling her this. So you did really well to let her know at all. And this is your business, your life and your relationship. She will needle you for a while and then she will stop. As maroda said stay true to yourself and congratulate yourself on finding the courage to tell her, it is a privilege for her to know not always a right

If she was an understanding mum she would of taken the note at face value, not kicked off ! So she proved you right about not telling her face to face..

I wish you well with your relationship

Hello, lonely and scared. Life is so challenging.

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Be well.

im not embrassed about the relationship, it is just that when it comes to these thing such as intiamicy i find it hard to deal with it as i never have before

new things can be a bit scary, very understandable. I'm glad you could get through it any way you could. It will get easier.

I wish my daughters would write a note to me. Good job, you will find there is rewards in just doing the right thing. We cannot control others reactions.

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How are you feeling today? I really hope the stress of this situation has left you and that things are fine for you. You are supported here and you are cared for and about. Let everything wash away and let the sun shine on your relationship, you deserve it.

my mum is still on my case about the way i did it. also she wants to know everything about when we are together. i dont mind telling her things like we went to eat, cinema watched films sort of thing but she wants to know personal things and will moan because i dont tell her. im trying to not listen to her and just get on with my relationship

Oh you poor thing! Doesn't she realise that some things you just don't discuss with mums? She may want to be a friend instead of a mum, maybe you need to tell her that you are just to private to share those things with anyone.

Its ok for you mum to be interested in what you do. But not on a personal basis of things that you do with the person you are seeing. I have three sons and although they tell me if they are seeing someone its none of my business what they do its your privacy. Sometimes mothers overstep the mark.