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Sep 21, 2010, 12:34 AM
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I would like to share my experience here....some of you may know me from before....
I had so much doubts to join to an online dating site...finally I did....and I met a guy that I felt so connected with....I will call him MR. online#1.....we went for three dates and then some text messages between us....then I found out he doesn't call, I didn't text him and he didn't contact me....I thought he found somebody else....and I just went for a date with MR. online#2.....I met MR. online#2 in a free dating site verses MR. online#1 in a paid online dating site..... anyway, to make the story short....when I went out with the MR. online#2, I felt somehting wrong, or I felt I'm still thinking about the first guy, I mean MR. online#1....so, when MR. online#1 asked me out for the second date, first I said okay, because I was not sure, but then I said no to him...and I was so polite....he texted me asking me if I like him and he said he will not going to bother me...I told him he's very handsome, but sorry I didn't feel the connection and he's even better off without me....then he texted me how wonderful I am and how inteligent and pretty I am....(((well...after one date, how he figured out, that was another red flag for me)))) anyway...I did not go out with MR. Online#2....in mean while, I got an email from MR. online#1 that he found a job in UK and he moved there for a year....since then we had emails back and forth....his email address is from UK....and I kinda trust him.... last week...MR. online#2 texted me asking me if I'm interested in anything sexual....OMG....what the heck? what that has come from? I'm telling him I don't want to have a coffee even with you, no relationshiip, you are asking me for sex....go get a professional....well...I didn't say that....I didn't reply him back....he texted me again for being sorry.....and I said...."well...sorry, I'm not interested in any types of relationship with you....good luck".....then he appologized and ended it nicely!!!! last Saturday....I'm getting a photo email from him on my cellphone....this is the MR. online#2....and it's his naked picture....him and his private part......OMG.....now I'm thinking....this guy is a true mess....true crazy....and I'm so afraid of him..... I texted him today saying "this is so offensive...stop sending me these disturbing pics and texts...and have some dignity for yourself"......he texted me back...."Shut the **** off *****"......I texted him "you are crazy" and I called my cell company to block him..... I'm just wondering how that can happen.....go out with a guy just one date....couple of hours....no touching, no kissing...no nothing...and then because I didnt go out with him for the second time, he's getting crazy and sending me his naked pic and then he calls me names.....what that comes from? It looks like he's very active online....I tried to find away to report him....but thank god the free dating site didn't have any way to block him or report him....very nice....now I'm thinking the online dating is just for crazy guys....and I'm so concern about my safety.... I think every single woman out there must be very careful to do online dating....don't ever give up your phone number.... well....the MR. online#1 has emailed me several times and told me he will come back here for a weekend end of september, but it's been 6 days that I haven't heard from him......I went online to hide my profile I saw him being active within an hour....and of course, his location has been changed to the UK location.....I thought great....and good to know.... Is there anybody out there for me really? do I stay alone for rest of my life? I'm so afraid now  I would not try this online dating anymore....it looks completely scary and unsafe.... thanks for reading my story -M |
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#2
Sep 21, 2010, 02:06 AM
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wow marjan, dealing with that no. 2 guy sounds awful. i hope the site can do something regarding him. as for no. 1 he's in another country so i think it's fair that he's still meeting people over there since he'll be gone a year. i bet you'll hear from him for his visit here. i do hope he ends up being a good one and not like the other.
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Sep 21, 2010, 03:52 AM
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http://www.google.com/q=cyber+dating+safety
http://www.wiredsafety.org/internet101/aromance.html https://www.wiredsafety.org/ http://www.wiredsafety.org/911/index.html https://www.wiredsafety.org/cybersta...ent/index.html http://www.wiredsafety.org/cyberstal...ment/help.html
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Sep 21, 2010, 10:54 AM
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Unfortunately, the site doesn't have a way to report him....such a shame....I will dig into it more.... I'm thinking about changing my cell number....but I really don't want to do that....I would love to keep my old number....but still thinking that this guy is so crazy and he might sent me disturbing messages and pictures from other cellphones are making me to change my cell number....got to make up my mind today.... Guy #1 is a nice guy....he's my choice....he's an engineer and he's a smart guy...I googled him and I found nice stuff about him online....he hasn't emailed me since last week....but yes, anytime he emails it's so sweet and nice....and of course he's a polite person....I understand that he's alone, I'm alone too....and I understand that we don't have any relationships, but still it's hurtful when I see he's really active on the online dating site....the funny thing is that I feel he had a good experience with me, now he thinks he can find another girl easily....not sure...it's just my perception.... I'm not doing that great these days....feeling of loneliness is just getting into me....I try not to think about it, but online dating was a hope for me, now that's not an option after having such a bad experience with the guy #2..... however, I met the guy#2 in a free dating site....I think it's better to go with the ones that we pay rather than the free ones that anybody can sign up into it and they can't retrieve them! thanks again -marjan |
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Sep 21, 2010, 11:01 AM
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thanks JustaSeeker....I will definitely take a look at these links when I get home  When I was chatting with the guy#2 for the first time....he asked me for my number, and I said sorry I don't give my number out because I had a bad experience....a guy kept calling me and getting obsess with me.....he said ya I do have the same problem....and he sympathized with me.....I was thinking good he had the same experience not knowing that he's the one who does that too even worse he sends his naked pics to girls...such a junky! |
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Sep 21, 2010, 11:20 AM
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((marjan)) very sorry this happened to you - how rude and scary. Hopefully it will work our with the other guy. It's better to stick with legitimate sites. Is there some way to report this guy to the police I wonder?
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Sep 21, 2010, 12:09 PM
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I'm living in LA, city of crime....there are so many crimes that I'm afraid they laugh at me if I report him.... The site doesn't have anyway of reporting them....at least it's not visible, but I will figure out away....I won't let this guy to be out there and scare women and force them to go out with him.... I was thinking about making a fake profile and give him a lesson....but for sure not now, because he will get suspicious on me....but somebody has to put him on his place.... I will think about something when I cool down and have more rational thoughts.... |
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Sep 21, 2010, 03:05 PM
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"If grass can grow through cement, love can find you at every time in your life." Cher Take care! 
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Sep 21, 2010, 05:55 PM
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Hey Marjan, on reporting it to the police...you can turn in the pics and the text messages as evidence!
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| Belle1979, lynn P., marjan, Rhiannonsmoon
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Sep 21, 2010, 06:20 PM
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but honesty, I think somebody has to do something for these guys on the online dating....they can't just harass people....they got to understand that girls can take action too.... Not sure how it works really.... |
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Sep 21, 2010, 06:50 PM
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You might want to google Craigslist Rapist. There are a lot of scarey people out there. You don't even have to sign up for a site for you to get attacked! Just need to have a really wacked out ex or other enemy to post an ad online saying they are you with all your personal info! Please be careful!
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Sep 21, 2010, 08:24 PM
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Yes it is worth reporting it to the police. This guy is a kook and he could well be a rapist. If you weren't the very intellligent person you are, you could well have not listened to your intuition and he could have raped you. I've been date raped and it is so scary because you just don't know if you are going to get out of it alive. Guys like this sexual predator first using a carriage service to transmit porn, and then using a carriage service to threaten and harrass is just the type of creep who would be a date rapist. Believe me I have counselled women in this type of situation. The thing these guys depend on is women being too afraid to report things to the police. You've changed your number, he doesn't have your address, please report it you could save someone from being raped.
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Sep 21, 2010, 10:11 PM
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yes, I'm getting so concern with this guy....and I'm thinking about reporting him....I will find out soon what to do....
This was so freaky....going just for one date....talking on the phone few times....and then couple of text messages.....I was so certain that I don't want to go out with him after the first date.....he drove me crazy talking about his ex-girlfriends.....he mentained that he's going to the gym but he doesn't go to the gym close to his home because he doesn't want to see his ex-girlfriend....now I'm thinking that maybe his ex-gf has put resteriction order on him..... |
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Sep 21, 2010, 11:10 PM
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Just concerned about you and your safety. It's a good thing to date and have fun. I am with you though. Listening to this guy talk about other women I am sure was a red flag. Take things slow and go at your own pace.
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Sep 22, 2010, 01:07 AM
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yes, I think I do have a good sense of understanding if the guy is a hoax or predator, but still, I can be played too....and plus, I can't just shut down all the communications for being scared.....I need to still trust people in some point.... I think I feel home sick these days....thinking more about Canada....I felt so safe over there....I had never thought about all these stuff....Los Angeles is kinda wild city....with so much crimes.....I think I prefer to stay in a city with less crime to feel safer..... I'm feeling tired and lonely these days....but I hope if I calm myself down and my mind gets relaxed, then I might find other ways to find that special person..... I'm totally okay with my day to day life, just loneliness is not good..... -M |
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