My Aunt

I just got a phone call from my Aunt (my dad's sister). She said she thought I was avoiding her and that I didn't want to go out to lunch with her because I got a migrane or got sick when we were supposed to go out. This has happened maybe 2 times and we have gone out a lot. Last time was because I had accidently eaten some gluten in my cereal the morning we were supposed to do lunch and a movie. I told her she could come over for supper with my Grandma since she was coming up here to spend the night but she said no.

She also wanted to talk to my mom to give her advice on what to talk to the doctor about when she goes in for her surgery consultation. She reads things on the internet and thinks that they are all true and is always giving us health advice from something she has read. She also watches Dr. Oz and is always saying Dr. Oz says this and Dr. Oz says that. If I hear that one more time I am going to explode. We (my parents and I) have confidence in her surgeon that he will do a good job with her cancer surgery even if he isn't an oncologist he did my dad's cancer surgery and my dad is doing great. As soon as my Aunt heard that the doctor wasn't an oncologist she freaked out and said that mom needed to get an oncologist to do the surgery that she needed to ask the surgeon how many of these types of surgeries he has done etc.

I know she is just concerned but she is annoying. How do I explain to her about my health issues that I am not ditching her that I do want to spend time with her but sometimes it is the nature of the beast being gluten intolerant and how sensitive I am I get sick very easily. She should understand gluten sensitivity because her son and his family are gluten free.

I don't understand my Dad's side of the family how easily they get their feelings hurt and such. They wear their heart on their sleeves and I do to a point but understand when things happen and don't really think about it.

So how do I deal with her?

Jan

Dearest jbug

How stressing for you when you have your mothers surgery to think about. I must admit I too was concerned when I read that your mother was not seeing oncologist surgeons. They are specialist for a reason. But if you are confident then that is all there is to it. I shall be thinking of you and keeping you all in mind

As for your aunt take a deep breath and let it pass from ear to the other and out the other side; she is in her own way showing concern and love for your mother and it be that she does not know any other way to do so

Just know that you are in my thoughts and I hope all goes very very well for your mother