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Oct 18, 2010, 01:31 PM
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I went out on three dates with this woman I met online and I don't know how to tell her I'm not interested in her without hurting her . Help please !!!!!!
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Oct 18, 2010, 01:33 PM
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just be straight with her.
it'll hurt more if you aren't honest |
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Oct 18, 2010, 01:36 PM
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Thanks lotusflames  I guess you are right .... that's what I was intending to do anyway.
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Oct 19, 2010, 12:34 AM
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I went out tonight again with her and had about an hour of sex.
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Oct 19, 2010, 12:45 AM
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Oct 19, 2010, 12:49 AM
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Yeah, that bit about the sex -- that might make it more difficult now to NOT hurt her feelings.
Honesty is always the best way, so why not just say, "hey,.. we're having a good time together and all, but I'm honestly, and truly not interested." Just put it into the perspective that you should word the phrases that you should say to her, but put yourself in her shoes. If someone were to gently put you down, how would you prefer someone to tell you that?
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Oct 19, 2010, 12:51 AM
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Women get easily attached by having sex...
Did you tell her you didn't want a relationship and just casual sex? Is that what happened?
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Oct 19, 2010, 01:25 AM
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Tell her thou art mine!
 I do not mind you coupling on me but don't you dare fall in love on me!
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Oct 19, 2010, 08:30 PM
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have you changed your mind about not being interested in her.. now..after you had sex..or your still pretty much done with her???
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Oct 20, 2010, 01:06 AM
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Oct 20, 2010, 02:12 AM
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The funny thing is the lady I was interested in about a month ago told me she was already seeing someone and couldn't date anyone till she seen where it was going. She contacted me today saying they broke up .Lotsa fun
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Oct 20, 2010, 04:38 AM
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No comments!
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Oct 20, 2010, 06:16 AM
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Dear One
I do hope you manage to get this sorted, it can only bother you until you make a decision
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Oct 20, 2010, 08:41 AM
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I shouldn't of referred to it as fun , because it truly isn't  Someone may be hurt and I know what that feels like.
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Oct 20, 2010, 01:06 PM
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Well.... I prefer men to be straight with me..... always have. I too have enjoyed one night stands... safely.... but this was all it was. Pure lust.... Now if you feel this person wants more of an relationship... you need to stand up and let them know how you feel... but sweetly. Be a friend.... that went out of his/her boundaries.... Good luck
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Oct 21, 2010, 07:19 AM
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karoliina that is a really lovely post. Put very nicely, friendly and strong. You have a lovely heart.
Chris as Karoliina said you need to act now, stand up and say what you have to say there are a couple of things I would like to say, I just hope they are acceptable. Ask anyone who has had someone come to them after they have been rejected by a lover, they will tell you of their heartache when the one who came to them went back to the one they left. Also if that relationship went sour so quickly there is something going on there that you may need to be wary of? I don't mean to pry dear friend, I just want you to be ok and safe and I really, really don't want you to be hurt, it's something you have already been through and I don't think you deserve it again. You're a really nice man one who doesn't need any more hurt or pain, Loving blessings, Rhiannon Rhiannon
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Oct 21, 2010, 07:48 PM
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I know.... I kinda miss her company ..... I am really confused
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