Upset.

I dont know where to put this.

I cant seem to get support from anyone I know about this and its really upsetting me the more time goes by.

My son Christian is a good kid he has mental health issues and anger problems, he was seeing a psychiatrist for seven years as a youngster he is now twenty.

He has spent most of the last four years in and out of prison but has been out for the last two months and doing really well. He found a job and was earning money ! He was staying away from the people who he gets into trouble with and really did not want to go back inside.

I heard this morning that he was arrested yet again and will go back to finish off his last sentence which will be 18 months plus whatever they put on top of that for the crime he has just commited.

I am not coping well at all.

Hubby is no support he normally is but this time he is letting me down by just saying the wrong things to me he is trying but its not working.

I am really upset about this and feel very alone.

I wish I could say something that'd take the pain away that this situation is making you feel. I know how much you wanted Christian to turn his life around and it seemed like he was on the right track. It's such a shame it didn't continue. However I also think that showed that without the influence of these 'friends' he can get have a good life.

But something I also wonder is if you're holding onto guilt about how things are going, because of feeling like his childhood has impacted him? Of course I am not a mother so I won't really know, but I can imagine you feel responsible for helping him and the fact you have no control being so far away makes it very hard for both sides.

I really think someone independent to talk to could be of use. I'm not sure how you feel about that idea, I've never asked you I guess. Maybe someone just to bounce ideas off and give you a chance to express yourself. Normally I know hubby would do this, but as there is a different sort of emotional involvement and he must have his own feelings which make it hard for him to see things from your point as a mother.

I also wish I could help more with this, but I feel a little helpless with this sort of situation and how I am at the moment to be honest. I am here for you though hun, keep talking. xxxx

((Tishie)) - I'm sorry this happened to your son and the sorrow/distress this brings to your family. Would it help if you told your husband what you need? I agree with anna342 -you may need someone objective to talk to. My heart goes out to you and your family.

Thinking of you (((( Tishie )))).

Please try not to worry, stupid of me to say but 20 is still pretty young. He had a taste of how 'good' it can be without those bad influences. I agree you may need an objective outsider to give you a hand with these things on your plate. Seems like a few biggies have come your way of late. Well big and good in some ways but still take a bite out of a person stress-wise.

All the best.

Thank you Lynn and Hunny,

Funny enough I did as you said Lynn I told hubby he was upsetting me by not actually giving me what I wanted which was a hug etc.

He tried his best and we are now fine

Hunny I pray what you have said is true and a taste of freedom has done it for him, yes there have been a few big things lately however I am strong I just took a shock but am now back up and running .

((((((((((((Tishie))))))))))))

I'm sorry for your pain. I really hope for you all that he does realise what he has done is interupting his life and upsetting yours and that he finds he wants a quiet life,

Thinking of you

Rhiannon

Dear Tishie,

Thinking of you and hoping that you and your husband become closer through this trial,

Rhiannon

My support and sympathy.

((((((((Tishie))))))))))

Dearest Tishie,, of course there are no words,,, {{{{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}}}}}}} Gus

I have no words that can help but I do care about you and your family.