[myoasis89]

everywhere I work it seems people dislike me. My first job at 16...the head cashier tried to fire me but she had no reason. I was never late, did my job properly she just didn't like that I was quiet and shy and did not bring my personla life to school

I worked in a restaurant, got promoted right away and a new manager came to work there and he stopped giving me shifts because he said I was too shy.

now I'm working at another restaurant and I've been there for a year and 4 months...this new server girl comes up to me and told me I have no friends and asked how old I am as if she thought I was immature.

I don't get why people can't leave people alone who do their job properly and are just quiet. I talk about work with people and the odd weekend, but I don't bring my personal life like family, bf and such and I'm not friends with co workers...yet people ahve a problem with this.

I have few close friends...and I know I am not the coolest person...I admit that...but who cares...i cherish people singally, I don't like people superficially

[Soul Quake]

Try to stand up for yourself. Sometimes if people sense that another is shy, they figure it's perfectly fine to walk all over the shy person. Becoming a bit more outspoken may put them in their place.

[lost-soul]

Hello myoasis. Well we are the same. I feel shy everytime and I don't know why I felt that way. Just try to build up your confident. I mean try to talk like what they like. Me too I don't talk a lot at my work, but the best sword I have is smiling. Try to smile as often (please do it naturally) lol. I hope you get what I mean. I mean you know I tried to smile when I see people and they approach me. Or maybe you may compliment someone like did yiu cut your hair? Looks great! I mean you will notice that you made someone's day happy.

Well try to ignore other people what they say. I mean try to socialize a little bit. Just talk to them, but be careful for some words. They may not like it.

Actually, I can sense the feeling of annoyance like you when I'm at work. My resident that I'm taking care has alzheimers. When I talk to her she just respond a few words. I understand her cause she's old, but honestly, she doesn't have a life. She sleeps in my entire shift. She doesn't want to go for a walk to get air outside, which i think always feel dizzy all the time.

And the most annoying part is that those CNAs outside the room are very irritating. They thought I want the old lady to sleep. What the F you know. Well it is not my fault if she sleeps. Then they think I'm not doing anything, but actually I massage and exercise her, but it depends on what time that she is in good mood cause if I touch her that she is in bad mood, she just screams at me.
The old lady lost her weight and they also blame on me. I mean I just there for a few days. You know well is it my fault if she doesn't want to it no matter how hard I do to make her eat?

I am asking the same question too. Why do people do their jobs, and not minding other people's job right?

I am thinking the same thing too.

[cutebagaddict08]

Yes, people love to gossip and some people feel work is their social hour. I also try to keep my personal and work life seperate. I do have some friends at work, but my closests friends are outside of work. I'm also shy too, so I don't sit and 'gossip' like alot of other people at work. Sometimes, I do feel 'left out' of the social gatherings, etc....but I know I am shy and serious at work. I'm alot more outgoing outside of work when I am with my friends and family.
I do agree with 'lost soul' smiling is a good gesture; I do try to say 'hi/smile' to a lot of co workers while I'm there, most are receptive to it and happily say 'hi.' back.

[Emotionally Dead]

I've never really had the problem of being shy at work, I was shy at one point when I was a child but as far as work goes I never had a problem. I have two different jobs. One of them is working with the public, the other is working with just other co-workers.

My main job is the one where I am not working with the public, and I had had the same job at a different place just a month ago. I was at that particular job for one year. Watched one boss get fired, watched my Co-Workers and I be without a boss for two months, then watched a jerk come in and be the boss and change everything. I had never had much of a problem at work before, a few people didn't like me because I was young and educated and did the job better than they thought I should, but other than that no problems. Immediately my boss disliked me for whatever reason. He began to harass me about everything I did. He would come up with things I did wrong just to make me look bad, just to get me thinking. I never put myself down over his ways, I just made sure that I kept doing my job and I would say yes sir and no sir.

It got to the point where I reported him and another worker. Yet, the person I reported them too didn't do as they said they would and instead of having a meeting between her, my boss, all my co-workers, and I, she decided that she'd let my boss have two separate meetings. One with me and one with the other co-worker that I reported. Instead of helping me through the problems he cut my hours.

I still continued to do my job the right way and just ignored him for the most part. A few weeks later (as I was already in talks with another supervisor at another building) my boss decided he was going to do something to get rid of me. He was going to cut my hours to only 20 a week. Four hours a day. I thought this was absolutely ridiculous. He told me that either I or the other co-worker I had reported could take the job. He told ME to make the choice. I went to his office laid my radio and keys down and walked out. Got the job at the other building that same day. Now I love my job and my supervisor and the people I work with. Still, a few of them don't like me because of the fact that I am new and young and willing to work hard.

Sorry for dragging it on so long, but I wanted to let you know that I do understand how you feel. Although it's not because I am shy. I am outgoing and willing to talk to anyone. I can joke with the people I work with or be extremely serious, but I would rather joke and smile than sit there with a straight look on my face. I like to make work fun and fun for the people around me, and I guess some people don't think you should mix fun and work so they don't like me for it. I am not mean to anyone, just as you aren't, and I genuinely care for people. I will never understand why people like me and you aren't liked by people we work with. I guess it's just because they are jealous and aren't able to work as hard as we are. So don't worry about it. Brush it aside. Just keep doing your job the way you're doing it and ignore them as best you can. I hope my post made you feel a little better if nothing else, and wish you all the best.