[tracylee]

Righto, can some one brief me here because i am confused.

I am in this relationship with some one 18 years older than me. he knew about the depression and still moved in with me. in the past few weeks he has gone from being supportive and what not to some one who appears to hate me.

He never holds me when i cry, he never kisses me anymore and he hasnt touched me sexually in weeks. I have tried asking him what has changed and he just says that i am imagining it and i am unstable??

[kimmydawn]

tracylee,

i would think that something more significant than your depression is causing this. it was a quick, dramatic change it seems from what you write. is there something going on in his life you might not know about and he's hesitant to tell you (i.e. finance, work, etc.).

if it's a quick change, i'd say it's him and not you.

gl!

kd

[CedarS]

I agree with Kimmy, she has some wise words there.

Are you in therapy yourself? If not, can you go in for some? Would be helpful to have someone skilled to talk this through in detail and get reality checks. And to help you make sure that you are safe and set good boundaries.

It sucks when people we are close to suddenly change without communicating fully with us, I know that from experience. Best wishes as you go through this.

Sarah

[marsha]

I have dealt with depression for about 7 years now and when you have depression, you feel that no one is there when really they are. I agree with the comments above but also it could be something to do with your depression. Are you on any kind of medication for your depression? Depression is there for many different reasons. Mine is a chemical imbalance in my brain. I am on medication and feel so much better. I feel like a whole person again and not just a tired and crying person. Just my thoughts. But my husband is very supportive of me and helps me through my depression. We both know when I am having depression and my body is acting differently. So we know when to go get help.

[tracylee]

Yes I am in therapy and on meds (efexor xl 150 mg) but they are talking about changing that (again) but this still doesnt explain his withdrawal from me really.

[January]

Hi Tracy,

It definately sounds like his problem. You need more information or relationship counseling.

My best to you,

January