[lisa39]

Someone who I once considered a friend has turned to drugs and has decided to turn her agressions onto me. Of coarse during our very short lived friendship, we shared secrets like friends do but have drifted apart in the last couple of months or so. I made the mistake of lending her money to support her gambling habit and after numerous calls to ask when she thought she could pay me, she blew me off. I turned her debt over to my husband to collect, I figured if he asked her, she wouldn't hesitate to repay the obligation. What do you think happened next? She went psychotic and loan repayment suddenly turned into purging all my secrets to my husband. I have anger and hatred for this person who I once considered a friend. Evil....evil person lives behind that maskerade. <font color="red"> </font> <font color="red"> </font> <font color="red"> </font> [b]]

[BamaSurvivor]

Lisa, you must realize your (ex) friend is on drugs. When a person is on drugs, they do whatever they have to do to keep their addiction in full bloom. They also become a person that isn't very desirable. They become hateful, bitter, selfish, self centered, and make their drug their first priority. Please realize this isn't your friend, this is the drugs your friend is on. When/if she decides to get clean, I can promise you she'll be a completely different person, a much more desirable person.

[dottie]

Hi.

I am so sorry you had to go through that. I can empathize with ya'!

~Dottie

[Raynaadi]

I agree with bama. While the drugs are not an excuse for her behavior, try to bear in mind that she is sick. She's under the influence of addiction. Try not to take it personally. It's best to move on, and don't risk your and your husband's security over this debt. She sounds like she may be dangerous. If she decides to get clean, hopefully she'll make strides to pay you back. Until then, try not to expect anything.

[tracylee]

I just read your post and I can sympathise with you. My ex was into drugs and alcohol and would get violent with me or even worse, his own mother. He stole from me, my son and his own family. We all got together to try and work out what we could do for him and we all decided that we would never lend him money or anything that would help him in his downfall. However, he latched onto some one else and told terrible untruths to people....... the bottom line or the end of the story is this, i kicked him out, his family dont speak to him and he is carrying on regardless!! He drifts from place to place and person to person in order to feed his habit. The main thing is this, as long as your husband realises that it was the chemicals that were doing the talking and not the person who had taken them!! Hope you get this sorted out, but you wont ever get your money back!!! Take care of you!!

[CompGeek]

The person who you once befriended is not who your friend is right now. I know that it is probably very painful for you, what your friend did to you and what you have to see her put herslef through. You have to remember though that she is not trying to hurt you it is the drugs that are altering her personality. Please try not to have hatred for your friend, instead compasion and empathy. Your friend needs you now more than ever. No matter what he/she says. your friend needs help, and could really use a good freind right now...

[BamaSurvivor]

Couldn't agree more with you, Comp.

[SilkySpeed7]

I had a similar situation with my best friend who now I have a restraingin order on. WHo confronted my actual abuser in front of me...talk about secrets unleashed....as well as other things.....it is sometimes hard to accept that someone we love like family who we have shared so many great things with can change so suddenly without warning and we are left in the battlefield wondering how it happened. What makes it worse is when we fight it. Drugs tend to change a person's personality and morals. It sucks but we have to accept that the person we once were friends with is no longer the same person as we were friends with before.

[lisa39]

It's not just about her drug use...her drug use is just one more thing that makes her ugly. She is not someone I would ever welcome into my life again. She is a manipulator and liar on top of everything else. Too much bad energy in someone I barely know.