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#1
Nov 16, 2010, 09:47 PM
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Greetings.
I am having a problem where I am feeling "trapped" in my relationship. If I were having this feeling because of obvious problems or issues between me and my girlfriend, I would know it was time to break up or move on... but what makes it difficult is that I make her very happy and our relationship has always seemed positive. I love being good to her, and I am, but before we were together I was able to affect the lives of so many people, and now I spend all my time on/with the same person. I feel like I stopped meeting new friends, that I am less active (in general, and in the lives of others), and that I am missing out on the things i once enjoyed. Is is not worth sabotaging a nice relationship, with a nice girl who loves me? Is it just my masochistic tendency to watch to screw up anything thats good in my life? am I just driving myself crazy? I feel confused about what to do. |
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#2
Nov 17, 2010, 09:57 PM
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Hello Kinda,
Welcome to pc. You need to do what makes you happy. But don't whatever you do make a decision based on what makes others happy. If you only feel happy in service, that is different to "affecting" other peoples lives for personal satisfaction. If you are feeling stifled and smothered in your relationship then it is time to move on; living to make someone else happy isn't a reason to live or to be in a relationship, Good luck with it
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Nov 18, 2010, 12:11 AM
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Why are you incapable of having a relationship with your girlfriend, along with an outgoing social life? What exactly is stopping you from having a world other than her?
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#4
Nov 18, 2010, 05:02 AM
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I was going to ask the same question. Why can't you be of service to others at the same time as having a relationship with your partner?? When you're in a committed relationship, you don't HAVE to spend 24/7 with one another. People DO go to work, etc., and they're not together. Why couldn't you take a couple of nights a week and do what it is you do? Is she that insecure that she couldn't handle that?
If you can't do both, you're going to be a very lonely person later on in life.  Best of luck. Hugs, Lee
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Nov 19, 2010, 01:55 AM
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I don't think Kinda said that she is insecure in any way. This is his issue not hers and it seems to me that he is wondering if it can be worked through and sorted rather than sabotaged.
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Nov 19, 2010, 03:25 PM
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Yes, I know that. He said he enjoys being good to her, and she loves him. I was just thinking out loud that she might not LIKE him going out a couple of times a week.
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