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Dec 08, 2010, 03:48 PM
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It depresses me that I'm 29 years old and am still single. I see all my friends getting married and having kids and I feel like a complete outsider. Part of me thinks that no man would ever go for me because I'm too ugly and fat and don't have a lot of confidence in myself. I worry so much about saying the wrong thing or not being interesting enough. I know since I've gained weight (med side effect), I lost a lot of my self esteem and confidence in myself. I went from being this person who had ambition in life, to now being someone who is scared all the time. I'm worried I'll never be confident again to be in a relationship. I've tried online dating but haven't had much luck with it. Physically, I know I feel ready to be dating again.. but emotionally, I don't know. I have so many self esteem issues to work on, but what if they never get better? Does that mean I'll never date again and be single for the rest of my life? I'm so worried about ending up all alone when I'm older. I want kids, I want to be in love and I want to be happy. I know I won't find mr. right on my door step and I need to be active, but I don't know how everyone meets all these great guys. I don't work (disability pension), so I can't meet any guys there. I'm doing school online, so I can't meet guys through there either. I don't go out much because of my anxiety and I don't really know a lot of people. Is the only hope for me online dating? It would be nice if I could find a nice guy who also has anxiety and understands about it. All I know is that I'm miserable being alone and I just want to find a nice guy who loves me for me and not for how I look. Someone who understands my fears and anxiety and won't judge me on it. Someone who will love me unconditionally. Is it just wishful thinking to find that someone?
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Dec 08, 2010, 04:44 PM
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"Plant your own garden and decorate your own soul, instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers." ~Veronica A. Shoffstall
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Dec 08, 2010, 04:59 PM
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(((Amanda 1981))) - do you belong to a religious organization? You could also join some hobby or volunteer groups to meet like minded people. Please be very careful with online dating. My mother would say "there's a cover for every pot" lol. I think you have a nice personality and I hope you find a nice person to share your life with. Hugs to you and Jasper.
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Dec 08, 2010, 05:52 PM
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(((Amanda 1981)))
I'm in a similar situation.. I want to find true love, settle down and have the dream life. I am stuck trying online dating and so far there have been ups (where I thought I found the right one) and the downs where I just get more and more depressed by every date I have been on. Try it and see what happens is my advice.. you never know. I figure that it will happen one day and I just hope it is before I get too old to have children.
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Dec 09, 2010, 07:40 PM
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I have been there and done that. Loneliness is a hard thing however being with the wrong person is even worse. I married a man who adored me and made me feel like a Queen at first and now he doesn't want to spend time with me. I suggest you work on your self esteem and yourself. Until you become happy and confident with yourself you shouldn't bring someone else into the equation. I have found you it easier to attract the opposite sex when you become comfortable and confident with who you are and you just go out and enjoy life and do things you like to do. Don't be so hard on yourself. You say all your friends are getting married and having children however I believe many of them may end up end divorce. At least that is just a statistical fact. Better to end up with the right person than the wrong one!
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Dec 10, 2010, 06:31 AM
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How do you define love? I do not ask to be condescending. Words can mean different things to each of us. What factors do you believe are constituents of true love?
http://ezinearticles.com/?Love-is-No...ling&id=240992 http://www.lvnash.com/four-types-of-love/ http://www.mental-health-matters.com...vs-infatuation |
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Dec 10, 2010, 03:22 PM
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I have had to wait until I reached the tender age of 44 before I found someone who wanted my love and was willing to give it back.
And the way I met her may also be a hint for you. I met her on the internet. But not on a dating site, but on an ADD support forum. And neither of us was looking to find love there, we just wanted answers and found something much better.
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