[youOme]

Ever since I had our baby 3 months ago, my boyfriend has COMPLETELY changed. He's almost a stranger to me, I feel like I hardly know him. All those ugly jerk aspects of his personality have been revealed. He used to be sweet and considerate.

[Leed]

Hi ~ You don't say how old he is, but i suspect he's pretty young. he probably is feeling trapped, and is afraid of all the responsibility that comes from having a baby that relies on him. He probably doesn't want to be a father right now ~ he probably wants to still go out and have fun instead of having to get a job and pay for the baby's needs. I hope he's not blaming YOU because HE is responsible too!!!

All you can do is calmly ask him if you both can sit down and talk this over. Find out what is really bothering him and take it from there. Then if there IS a serious problem, see about couples counseling. God bless. Hugs, Lee

[nice girl]

I Agree with lee here... He might not be ready to take responsibility.. And also sometimes it can so happen that babies need more care and understanding....
But amongst this he might be feeling left out.....
u know.... just give him some time and see if there is a difference in his behavior..

You said on another thread that he is mean to your kids from a previous relationship and always has been to the point your kids dont like him ?

So he was never actually a nice person was he.

[Skully]

Originally Posted by Tishie

You said on another thread that he is mean to your kids from a previous relationship and always has been to the point your kids dont like him ?

So he was never actually a nice person was he.

That was kind of what I was thinking. Sorry to be so blunt about it, but what Tishie says is true. There were warning signs already. I would do what I can to get out of the relationship before it gets much worse....

[youOme]

yeah, it's gotten a lot worse since the baby's been born, but there was signs...correct. like an idiot i thought kay kay would bring us more together as a family, instead she's made things more coplicated because of the obligation attached. all i wanted was a family, even if it was mixed. i just wish he was the same guy i fell in love with in the beginning, its almost like trickery.