[hello9you]

Ive been with my bf for over 2 years now and we have a beautiful daughter together. Hes a great guy and all but this whole double standard thing is driving me nuts! His family hates me because he tells them all sorts of crazy stuff. Our roommate which is his best friend is always inviting him out to chill with his friends but he always says hes "not allowed" but in reality im the one trying to get him out and do things a talk to someone other then me.. He always tells his family that hes trapped in this house (meaning I dont let him go anywhere) when its always been him saying that he doesnt "feel" like going out. So i have to deal with all the negativity and nasty comments about how im a controlling inconsiderate person when hes the one lieing about me to make it look better on his part. Hes always lieing about stupid little things and then im the one to blame.. Im not allowed to talk to anyone or go out and hang out with my friends with out him saying "if you leave dont plan on coming back here". Whatdoido?

Howdy, hello9you. Why do you think he is a great guy? More particularly, why do you stay with one who asserts such control over your life?

[Leed]

Hi ~ I was married to a guy like that. He let his parents think something AWFUL about me until they died. This "something" wasn't true - but he never told them it wasn't. Consequently, they didn't have a very high opinion of me. If I had gone to them and told them it wasn't true, do you think they would have believed me?? NO - because their son could "do no wrong."

I don't know why you're with a guy like that, but it's only going to get worse. If he's lying about that kind of stuff, he's going to lie about alot more -- believe me. This is only the beginning. Why would he HURT you like this? This IS hurtful, because he's making his parents think ILL of you. Lord only knows what ELSE he's told them about you. Take your baby and get out -- you need someone who will treat you like the lady that you are. YOu don't need some childish little boy who plays games. God bless. Hugs, Lee

[Soul Quake]

Originally Posted by hello9you

Im not allowed to talk to anyone or go out and hang out with my friends with out him saying "if you leave dont plan on coming back here". Whatdoido?

Exactly that - leave and don't come back.

[hello9you]

I feel as if he is a great guy because we used to have so much fun together our daughter is his life. he has always been good to me besides the fact that he directs all of his anger towards me. his mom hates me and I mean she HATES me for the simple fact that Im with him sand not his younger brother. He was the child she never wanted she never took care of him and the only time his father seen him he walked away as soon as he noticed his mom. apparently he wasnt ready for kids either. but he was raised by his gram and she did do right by him and he loves her to death for it. but its like all that resentment that he has for his mom gets pushed out in messed up ways(For lack of better terms). but i just dont understand why he would want everyone thinking that Im tieing him down or not letting him have friends...it makes no sense to me.. for example - I hepled him get into school. he was studying aviation top student in the whole school.. then his mom decided to ruin it all claiming him as a dependent on her taxes when he had already filed as an independent in order to get into school. they stripped his loan and kicked him out of school. his friends would call and call annd call but he would never respond to them then when i was using his phone one day i saw that they were saying that he needs to get rid of me seeing as i dont ever let him talk to them.. but thats just the way he is.. if your not a useful part of his everyday life he wont ever respond back thats just the way he is.. its just the fact that im the one being blamed for it all... btw that is just one example i have many many more.. i just dont know what to do about any of it..