[UCLAFan]

ok i'm going to vent a bunch here.i don't drive due to having epilepsy.plus i can't rely on my family and so called friends.well several times this winter there has been 6 inches of snow on the ground for like a week.nobody has offered to take me to the store in this weather or good weather for that matter.everyone in my family thinks i should just use public transportation or get a ride from my social worker.but i can't take the bus when there is 6 inches of snow.in the past i have taken the bus in bad weather and then i have fallen in the snow.i could use some help every now and then.but the few times i asked for help i'd get excuses or they'd tell me they'd come and get me but never show up.things like this get worse the longer i live here.all i want is some love and support from my family.i feel at times like i'm dying inside and i feel a lot of bitterness and hate for my family and others.plus i wish i could meet new people and make new friends.but i'm scared of being mistreated by people.i have been burned by most people i have known.also scared that people will judge me because i don't drive,don't work etc.i'm not social like i use to be.i'd rather be alone most of the time then have people hurt me.a few weeks ago a relative of mine was in the hospital for a few days.this relative and his wife are the 2 i have had the most problems with.i never went to visit him mostly because my lack of transportation and the fact he has never been there for me.my mother called me selfish for not going to see him in the hospital.but it would take 3 different buses just to get to the hospital the jerk was in.nobody in my family offered to pick me up and take me to see the relative in the hospital.even though they went to the hospital to see him.i might add that most of my family members live less then 5 miles from me.the family members that never offered me a ride gave me a hard time about me not visiting my uncle in the hospital.i was wondering how can i make new friends that will actually treat me well?also i never really told many in my family how i feel.ok a few times i have and just heard lame excuses from my family.but it's been years since i have said anything to my family.in the past before i moved here 18 years ago i had a few close friends that where like family.but the last 18 years my relationships have pretty much sucked.the last 10 have been the worst out of the 18 years.been single since 2000.i feel like a total loser when it comes to relationships.i have been asked out on dates.but the guys who have asked me out are gross,weird,married etc.why do i keep attracting losers?i have heard the saying u teach people how to treat you.maybe i'm stupid but i don't totally understand that.i kind of do but i don't.i just wish things would get better.

[Leed]

"You teach people how to treat you" means that the way you treat others is the way they're going to treat YOU.

Have you asked your family what their problem is with you? Have you talked to them to see if they are mad about something? Perhaps if you had a CALM talk with them, you might find out if there is a problem. Maybe there is just a misunderstanding, and something that you can clear up easily.

There must be a reason why they don't offer a ride to you ~ so find out what the problem is ~ and IF there is a problem or a misunderstanding, you can set it right. Best of luck and God bless. Hugs, Lee

[UCLAFan]

the few times i have talked to them about this their excuse is they are busy and since there is public transportation so why do i need a ride from them.even when i was sick and injured they told me to take a bus to the hospital.

[Leed]

But have you asked them what the problem is?? Can you get them to really TALK to you? Find out what they are upset about with you. There must be something that they're mad or upset about -- find out what that is, and IF you need to make an apology, then you'll be able to do it. But if you don't need to, then remind them that THEY might need to. See what I mean??

I hope you can get some answers soon. Family is all we have! God bless. Hugs, Lee

[clouds_and_sun]

(((UCLAfan)))
My family is so self obsorbed as well, they would not allow me to move home when I was homeless cause they said "it would cramp their way of living". I can totally feel your pain. I can understand how you don't trust anyone either. Also I can come across as bitter sometimes to people cause I feel that no one cares. Sure my only friend has taken me places but she works full time and the boarders in this home are all about #1 no one or nothing else. So I totally can feel your pain.

[UCLAFan]

leed i have tried to talk to them.but all they do is say they are busy.last year i feel down my apartment stairs and won't up going to the hospital via ambulance.i messed up my shoulder in 2 different places.i was in the hospital the day i feel for 7 hours.when i was told i could leave the dr told me i needed to call someone to come get me.well when i called my aunt and uncle to come get me.my uncle answered the phone and i heard my aunt in the back ground saying telling my uncle to tell me to take a bus or cab home.then my uncle told her no i'm going to go pick her up.she told him pick her up after we have dinner.