[NuckingFutz]

Well, after my bf kicked me out of his house for being honest for something he did and saying things like "I'm going to decapitate your cat", and throwing a box of cigarettes at me, I went back to my place for a week.

Then I went to visit my best friend and my ex bf knocks on the door. Next thing you know we are talking, saying we will be more kind and considerate of eachother and not say mean stuff that we really don't mean. One thing led to another and I moved some of my stuff back in this afternoon...he's been on again, off again about it. I missed him before but now I see what a self-centered narcississtic jerk.

Plus we are both bipolar (both on meds, both on therapy). And again, tonight he brings up taking me back home again tomorrow.

I have finally had it with his ********. I don't care if he begs me, I'm not coming back. He changes his mind so much about so many things that I just can't keep it all straight.

I don't think he should treat me this way and I think he knows this. He is just so nonchalant about it all, telling people that ask, "well, we're kind of taking it day by day. I can't live with him wanting me here one day and away the next.

When I gave him a second shot, I told him I was moving to Vegas on March 11th and we decided to just keep things light, fun, enjoyable. Having to move my stuff back and forth (including cats) is anything but light, fun, enjoyable.

Once I get back home, I just want to say to him, you know, "if you could stick to one choice or the other" but he's just such a narcississtic jerk. Compared to this guy, I seem pretty stable.

I missed him the first time because he was good to me until stuff blew up between us, but now that he says "the honeymoon is over" and I see all his negative bs, I won't be grieving for him.

I just had to get this out...

He will not be hearing from me again or seeing me after tomorrow. I know he won't learn from this lesson as I just found out that he's don'e this over and over with other women.

So I will leave him to his video games and his revolving door of women. I deserve better.

[PleaseHelp]

(((HUGS)))

[salukigirl]

You do deserve better! Kudos to you for standing up for yourself! There are a lot of things I can tolerate but threatening my animals is unacceptable. They are my babies and if my bf ever threatened my cats he would be buried in the backyard. :HUGS:

[missbelle]

Yes, You deserve better...sometimes this drama becomes our "fix!" Don't let it be yours... Also I learned from being an abused spouse years ago that I was used to chaos........it was my normal. When there was no drama/chaos, I created it or I missed it. Glad I don't do that anymore.
Stick to your guns so to speak...wait this out..don't go back....love yourself more!!!

Been there many times I would care to mention!!!

[NuckingFutz]

Leaving him this time won't be so hard. He's a child in a man's body. Plays video games, fantasy games, and collects comic books.

He said he didn't mean that he would hurt the cats, but you just don't say stuff like that even if you don't mean it...right?

I think once the newness of having me around wore off, stuff started happening. He's got OCD, bipolar, love and sex addiction and his own therapist says he has narcissistic traits which he does.

The guy is mdidled aged and has 3 daughters...he just won't grow up and has too many issues for me to be around. I just put a fork in the sink and he had a cow...I would hate to be this man.

When he told me he was in love with me and wanted me to move in, I guess he only meant it for that moment.

I pray no other women get trapped in his web.

[Tatyana2009]

I think your line- compared to this guy i seem pretty normal - is meaningful. Maybe a key to something?

Hope you are happy and settled in your own space. You deserve it xxx

[Rhiannonsmoon]

(((((((((Aww Futz)))))))))

You're doing the right thing

[thine_self_untrue]

[reader71]

Don't go back. Cut off all contact with him. I did that recently, and although I am still sad sometimes, I feel better about it every day. You deserve someone who treats you well. Stay strong! My ex texted me this morning, and I told him to not contact me again, ever. I have to do it for my own mental health and self esteem. I deserve better, and so do you.

[sugahorse1]

(((NF))) sorry you went through such turmoil; I am glad you have finally been able to make the decision to finally cut ties.

I've been in a relationship with a fellow BPer and it's a nightmare.
One day it's on, then it's off. You never know where you stand. You feel rejected and start doubting yourself.

It's not worth it - you are worth so much more!

[SlatkaMala]

I've been in this situation where I kept going back to a guy who was not good for me. Sometimes a person can be addicting.

[ladyjrnlist]

You do indeed deserve better. There's a difference between bipolar and jerk. I think he might have a case of both.

[NuckingFutz]

Yeah, the guy is a lot of things. I am not addicted to him at all. He's got the following under his belt: pedofile survivor (in which he is in denial about because he liked it), bipolar, OCD, paranoid, irrational beyond just bipolar. He's got the original pedofile still after him and he almost went to her last night.

I've done a lot of healing and I'm over this guy. However, and this is not like me to use someone for things I need right now like wifi, a much nicer place away from the crack addicts and I'm in a better location to do my animal companion care. He wanted in on it, but when I started to work with him on it, it was way above his head due to his self imposed limitations (he gets nervious driving, he doesn't want to deal with having to drop off food in bad neighborhoods, he's in art school and doesn't have time, etc...). He wants me to give him a job description and I said we could both work it up and we tried but all he can do is pick up the food/supplies, sign and agree to stuff for the non-prof and he wants a salary to go with that. I don't see that as a rational job description.

[PurpleFlyingMonkeys]

You do deserve better and I am so proud of you and happy to hear you say this! Too many people do not feel that way, it's a miracle you do and I applaud you for your courage and your self love! Something we all here at PC need a lot of!