Synopsis of a Narcissist

Narcissist-Predator of the Heart

Those who live with or are married to narcissists have been psychologically wounded. The narcissist takes what he or she wants from us and discards the rest. He molds his spouse and children into perfect images that satisfy his endless ego needs. The narcissist is the writer, director and star player in his magnificent drama of delusion. All of those close to him/her are expected to play their roles without question. How you feel as an individual does not matter to the narcissist. Who you are in the depth of your being is of no consequence. The narcissist is a counterfeit person who was forced early to become false to himself and others. He may be bright, successful, powerful, magnetic and compelling but he cannot ever be real---a loving human being.
The narcissist forces those close to him to play the parts assigned. Spouses of the narcissist are often so intimidated and deluded by him that they spend the rest of their days being false selves. They are too afraid to break free from the narcissist's steel psychological grip. These predators of the heart have stolen their true identity, eclipsed their individuality and shut down their sponstaneity and creativity.
Some victims of the narcissist escape this imprisonment by their capacity to stay in touch with the deepest, authentic parts of themselves. Through perserverance and grace they extricate themselves from predatory narcissistic bonds and fly free, often for the first time in their lives.

To learn more about the multiple facets of the narcissistic personality and how to maintain and expand your sacred sense of self, visit my website: www.thenarcissistinyourlife.com
Linda Martinez-Lewi, Ph.D.



this really gets to the "meat" of the disorder

J

just me, but i would seek professional help had i had to deal with a narcissist as a parent. just as i did from being physically and mentally/emotionally abused by my ex. i had lost the sense of self. had no idea who i was anymore. took the help i sought to untangle the false information. had no ability to do it alone. had i experienced the narcissist parent i am sure i would have done the same-sought help knowing the "scars" i had.
by getting help i learned who i was and how to like myself, learned to value the strength of my convictions-had lost this ability, and also how to avoid having this type of person in any relationship with me again by knowing the "red flags". i never wanted to be "jailed" again. today i am free, joyous, and happy. it was well worth this the journey to freedom.

Thank you Voidofcourse....~W~

"lost the sense of self"-- that's just what's been happening to me. My therapist is hostile (I'm terminating this week), my hubby and I are somehow on the wrong track. I've had all kinds of horrible dreams, one in which I lost my handbag. I was freaking out, way beyond the cause. And then I realized that I was worried about my wallet in the dream -- I'd lost my ID!

I just feel like I'm melting away sometimes. My parents both had NPD, as I've determined, although they were never diagnosed. They kept sending ME to shrinks, but never thought to try therapy themselves. Anyway, good thread!