[xXLifeAsWeKnowItXx]

It seems like ever since my best friend quit our relationship my life has gone drastically down hill. I wrecked my car, I got a traffic fine (that is due in 3 days), I cant even afford to print the pictures for my photography class let alone the fine, I am not going to make the deadline for financial aid so I will have to quit school for a while, taking a break from school means having to start paying off those loans (but once again no money), I cant find another job, my previous job was only giving me 3 hours a week (that is enough money to pay for one tank of gas), and when I am depressed it can be difficult dealing with my boyfriend's Borderline Personality Disorder. I have had problems dealing with depression for a few years now, but it has been getting worse due to stress and, thanks to having 2 of my best friends stop our relationship suddenly with in 6 months of each other, I have a hard time trusting anyone, even my boyfriend at times.

Is there anything anyone can recommend to help with my depression or at least relax? It seems like I have tried everything.

[Nola22]

Hi LifeAsWeKnowIt,

You've got an awful lot of stressful situations weighing you down at present, and I'm sorry for everything you're going through. I don't know if I can address all of it, but I'll try to help with what jumped out at me when I read your post.

Why won't you be able to make the financial aid deadline for school? Seems to me if you could get the paperwork in/file online in time, that would eliminate a number of issues from the get go. Also, try not to quit school if you can't clear up the monetary side of it--see if they will allow you to take a semester off or something like that so you won't have to reapply, which would mean more hassles, and a reapplication fee.

If you must leave school, would you consider enrolling in a community college for a class so you could stave off paying back your debt? Also, you should inquire if there's any type of grace period available with your loans if you intend to complete your education.

Can your family pitch in while you try to resolve all this?

Honestly, I don't think I'd be able to relax with such difficulties looming, and I'm not sure how to advise you in that capacity. My heartfelt suggestion would be to try and fix as many of the practical problems you can.

I'm sorry about your friendships falling apart; I know how confusing and saddening that is. If the friendships do not resume, I hope you are able to find peace with that in time.

All the best to you!

[Leed]

Bless your heart ~ so many things all at once! No wonder you're feeling badly.

Why did your friends "leave" you? Do you know why? Was it because of your depression? If so, that was a lousy reason, and they weren't real friends.

Like Nola said, if you can try to get your financial aid paperwork in on time, at least you won't have to leave school. Give it your best effort -- school should be your #1 concern. Without it, your chances of a good job will be very difficult.

Try to find ANY job, even if it's menial. In these times, any job is worth our efforts. Work is so hard to come by ~ if it doesn't give you enough hours, then perhaps you can find 2 jobs. I know that sounds awful, but we have to do what we have to do!

This all sounds very stressful I know -- but if you get your responsibilities taken care of, you'll be able to breathe much easier. Staying "busy" does help us -- it wouldn't seem like it, but it does. I wish you the very best. God bless and please take care. Hugs, Lee

[xXLifeAsWeKnowItXx]

Originally Posted by Leed

Bless your heart ~ so many things all at once! No wonder you're feeling badly.

Why did your friends "leave" you? Do you know why? Was it because of your depression? If so, that was a lousy reason, and they weren't real friends.

Like Nola said, if you can try to get your financial aid paperwork in on time, at least you won't have to leave school. Give it your best effort -- school should be your #1 concern. Without it, your chances of a good job will be very difficult.

Try to find ANY job, even if it's menial. In these times, any job is worth our efforts. Work is so hard to come by ~ if it doesn't give you enough hours, then perhaps you can find 2 jobs. I know that sounds awful, but we have to do what we have to do!

This all sounds very stressful I know -- but if you get your responsibilities taken care of, you'll be able to breathe much easier. Staying "busy" does help us -- it wouldn't seem like it, but it does. I wish you the very best. God bless and please take care. Hugs, Lee

As for my friend's leaving me, they werent very good reasons. The first one said she thought our friendship was a "public display" and the second one didnt really give me an answer to why. And thank you Lee, I will take all the luck I can get.

[embracinglife]

is there any way you can go to a therapist?

[xXLifeAsWeKnowItXx]

Originally Posted by embracinglife

is there any way you can go to a therapist?

our college provides a free one but i have no car to get there