[radio_flyer]

Guess my sister found my son on facebook and was asking about me.. oo yippee... We haven't spoken in over l0 years not sure what the point is now to talk. There is history here. Stuff I am not going to get into now.. But the bottom line is I don't want to meet up with her and let her rally in my failures....

Guess I irked AJ when I mentioned to him the job is gone and I asked him if he knew what the job was paying. He said no and I said I think you should know and he flipped and as aways blamed me because I didn't do his resume, which I told him I did not know the "computer language" to write the resume weeks ago... SO he said since I am such a "B#### he is going to invite my sister here. lol... I just won't anser the door... I refuse for her to see how much I've fallen apart and the conditions in which I live......................

To be honest I don't want anyone that knows me see me now. I used to always be well dressed and well groomed. She'd just wrinkle her nose in disgust..I've made my choices and I don't need being put on display in a circus freak show....I can live with me now, just I don't e xpect others to agree or understand...........

Please don't respond.. HONEST.....I just wish there was a place I could "air" out all my "issues" and just be heard and not replied to. Sometimes stuff just hangs inside and it festers so I need to just spit it out.. and let it out without trying to figure out the whyssssss..

Thank you for understanding.. Sometimes reality isn't as nice in real life when one can put it in a box, lock it and toss out the key...I don't want to find the key and I don't want to meet with my sister... let along for her to see me in person...

[(JD)]

Well, I AM going to answer ..... you can begin a blog here, make it totally private if you wish no one to read it. (And it's free too.)

And... I'm sorry that your son is seemingly betraying you...but teens do tend to do that. I would not, however, ever have allowed such language. It's your home, you can make some new rules if you like.

Remember, you are the adult. Don't react to the teen mentality if you can help yourself. Tell him nicely that there are things you and your sister aren't able to patch up right now and she isn't welcome to your home. If he wishes to meet his aunt somewhere for lunch or something, he should be welcomed to do so...you know?

Posting at PC is for support, in more than one way. I hope you accept my support, and that you will rethink how badly you are feeling, and do some good self care (treat yourself!) and maybe feel a little better?

[radio_flyer]

Thanks JD.. You made a very good point.. To not react and to talk to him in a "calm" way... In other words "be the "adult" in the situation... Very good point.. Thanks

I have found that when I don't react or get drawn into his anger things work out better. Just sometimes I let it get to me.... Will have to work harder on this....

[missbelle]

I also am with you radio flyer......