[BarmeyBunny]

I need some advice

I am Bipolar and I have a friend that is Narcissistic.

In the last few months, he's wanted to commit suicide at least half a dozen times, and is friendly for a while and then lashes out at me. I have always been there for him, even though I am battling with a depression phase.

I am now at my limit. I have said to him that I do not want any contact until I am more stable, and that I will contact him.

I wasnt able to understand this, and couldnt understand why I am having to do this. He has turned up on my doorstep, within me inviting him. I told him the timing wasnt good and that he could come the following day. The next day, I had to cancel because I was not feeling good, so I sent him a mail, not to come. Anyway, he turned up but I didnt open the door. He was ringing the doorbell and throwing stones at my window for about 20 mins.

Then I get a phone call from my sister (it is now 10.30pm), he's turned up at her doorstep, saying he's worried about me. I told my sister, that I am at our mum's. She told him that, and that I was alseep. He spoke with her about how he is feeling (depressed) and how much "he" needs me. He then comes back to mine and leaves a package.

A few days later, we spoke briefly online, and I said that I was going to bed because I was tired. He then drives to my place (which I didnt know), and I receive an sms at 01.03am saying, well I wont repeated it but it wasnt very nice.

This was the last straw for me, and thats when I said that I do not want any contact.

That hasnt exactly worked. On another website, he kept clicking on my profile (It shows when someone clicks) I had to block him ats I had the feeling I was being stalked.

He is quiet for a while, and then tries getting in contact. This started again the other day. He calls with a number I do not know, crying as he is on his own and the girl he has been talking with (he is 33, she 15) isn't replying to his messages. After this, I then get an sms saying that he needs me, I ignored that. Then I get a message here, saying the same but now it is serious. I didnt know what to do, and spoke with my sister who said ignore him.

My sister has also had contact with him asking him "nicely" to leave me alone until I am ready to contact him.

I have also spoken with his mum, and she understands that I need a break from our friendship.

If this carries on I will have to break our friendship.

Can anyone give me some advice.

Thanks

[Perna]

Your sister has it right; ignore him, hang up on him without talking to him if he calls from strange numbers, block him on all sites he bothers you on. If you come face-to-face with him tell him, seriously (and "angrily" so he knows in no uncertain terms that you are serious), that he is bothering you and to stop or you will take formal action and then do so if he doesn't stop.