[salukigirl]

Wow.....so my bf is in GA for work and will be there another 2 weeks or so. He calls me today saying he received an email from his mom. Their family friend (has been around for over 30 years and has known my bf his entire life) basically fell off the face of the earth a couple months ago. Nobody could get ahold of him. Called, emailed....nothing. This guy was like an uncle to my bf. My bf thinks the world of this guy. They really love each other and he loves the whole family! He is just a great guy all around.

So this email is from the friend saying that he refuses to answer any of our emails or phone calls from now on. He won't even answer a call from their area code in case they try to call from a different number. He said he doesn't want to do it but he will never speak to any of us ever again. They never got a goodbye, no letter no nothing. Just an email telling everyone to stop trying to contact him. Totally out of the blue!

My bf's dad says that his best guess is that he most likely had a massive stroke. The guy smoked, drank and was very overweight his whole life and has already had 1 heart attack. So his theory is that he is in such bad shape now that he doesn't want any of us to see him like that or feel pity for him.

But I just don't get it? If you can't go to your best friends in your time of need like this....what is the point of having friends? He basically just wants to be left alone for his last limited time of earth. Which might be comforting for him....but it's tearing my bf apart! I never see him cry. Ever. I could hear him tearing up on the phone. He is absolutely devastated. I haven't spoken to his mom or dad yet to know how they are doing but I'm sure they're the same.

Normally I would brush it off as over-reacting and "oh he'll come around". But this guy got into a fight with his brother 25 years ago and has still not spoken to him. So basically, when he says he will never speak to you again.....he means it. It's almost like he has died. I don't really need advice or anything. Just wanted to vent bc I don't understand how someone could do this to people he has known for over 30 years! I really hate him right now from hearing my bf talking and hearing how hurt he is. I wanna drive up to his house and just yell "could you be any more selfish?!" you don't want pity so you cut the most important people out of your life!? Who does that?!

[spaceid]

I'm sorry this happened. I can see why you are angry. This guy meant a lot to your BF and his family and then he just left. My father basically did the same thing to me and my brothers and my friend's father did this to her and her brother too. I think it is selfish on his part although he may not think it is. He may think he is trying to protect you guys from something. I'm sure he feels some kind of regret, but it is still a sucky thing to do. I hope you, your BF, and his family get through this ok.