[ReneeDawn]

My husband had received a new job and we will be moving out of state within the next week. I had posted a thread about this earlier about money issues, however, a new problem has risen and it's more personal.

A few days ago we had to visit the doctor, it seems my husband's gallbladder is being very dysfunctional and may need it taken out this week. He was very bummed about it because we are suppose to be moving this weekend. Of course, we talked to his boss and he was very understanding and we are waiting to take it out a few days after we move in. We also found out he has thyroid-itis (I think that's what it's called), but a very minor case.

However, the apartment complex that we are suppose to be moving into this Saturday is now saying we can't because they are closed and no one will be there. Which would have been nice to know WAY earlier. So now we are "uping" the move date to Friday.

Because of all of these things happening he is slowing at his ropes end. I am upset all this is happening too, but these are things you can't help. Not everything goes as planned. And I have told him this, but he just mopes around all day saying how awful life is. But I really feel he's taking all this the wrong way. Yes, he needs is gallbladder taken out, but it wasn't that serious, they caught it early enough so he can have a quick recovery and he will be feeling like a new person in the future. And moving the move-in date is not that big of a deal. Sure, not as many family members can come help us but it's going to get done.

Does he have a right to be this upset? Or am I just seeing everything in rose-colored glasses? Any advice would be great.

[Leed]

Hi ~ I have a feeling that your husband just doesn't feel good. Things have just had a few snags in them, and when you don't feel well it seems like a major crisis. It's too bad he can't have his surgery NOW and get it over with. He's dreading that I'm sure, plus worrying about his job and having to be off work due to the surgery, plus worrying about the move, money, etc. Just give him a break and try to reassure him that things will be okay. He's just going to have to handle his stress the best he can for the time being. God bless. Hugs, Lee

[missbelle]

surgery is scary...no surgery is small.......I was scared when I had surgery last March....he has a lot on his plate....support him!!

[Perna]

We feel what we feel; there is no "right" or wrongness about it. He has a lot on his plate; starting a new job, moving, having an operation, and he probably doesn't feel very good. I would just pat him kindly on the shoulder when he complains and hand him a box and ask him to pack the clothes from his dresser, please, or the kitchen things in "that" cabinet, etc. Give him easier things to pack where he can sit and doesn't have to bend or reach so much.

As you say, soon these things will be over and he'll probably feel a lot better. For yourself, if that happens, the same can be said; soon you won't have to worry as much about him and his changes and can work on your own projects.

[Martina]

I ditto what the others said. If he needs this surgery, he's probably in pain, right? And any surgery is scary. Heck, I get nervous about getting a crown on my tooth! Moving is stressful. Starting a new job is stressful. I'd be surprised if he WASN'T a little messed up!

He needs your support.