[Jenn1fer82]

I look into my bf's eyes and I can see that parts of himself is slowing fading away. It hurts me to see my bf hurting so much when all he wanted was to have his kids back together with him. He's spent thousands of money to fight for his children but at the end of things the court has granted for his exwife to move out of state. He wants his children and want things to be fair but his exwife is finding every way to kick him out of their children's life. All of this is tearing him up and I don't know how much more I can do for him. I want to take everything away from him and to see him smiling again. I know people are wondering why did the court decided to side with the exwife and not work with my bf. He didn't do anything wrong. It all started when there was one date that he was suppose to keep his kids but he told his exwife that he wouldn't be able to take the kids that day because of financial reasons and it would be better that if they can reschedule. She told him that it would be okay to do so. Well she lied and told a story that he purposely didn't show up without any notice and she continued with more lies that he didn't want anything to do with the kids. She wanted to remarry and move on with a brand new life and she wants to start over new without my bf in their life whatsoever. This was the beginning for a downward hell for my bf.
Please help we don't know what else can we do. We're at our knees and begging for a miracle. All he wants is to have his children in his life. Please oh please what are we suppose to do.

[Gilead]

I'm living with the same situation as your BF, I'm happy for him that he has someone as caring as you in his life.

How far away are the kids? Mine are a 300 mile roundtrip. I miss them everyday. Time does help but nothing erases the pain of not being able to see them each day and feeling like a part of their life.

Can he get into some kind of routine of seeing them? Every other weekend? School vacations? Anything is better than nothing.

His ex-wife sounds as selfish as mine although mine does see the importance of having their father as part of their life. But, there have a few times where because of distance and money that I couldn't make the trip and she accused me of not wanting to see them - she will never make the mistake of saying that again. I'm pretty sure she had plans and was mad that she had to break them.

The situation sucks but I try to make the best of it. I tell the kids (mine are 5 and 7) that it's not the time we're apart that matters, it's the times that we are able to be together that matter. I know that my life simply stops when we're apart and starts again when we're together.

Sometimes I think that because we're just the father that people don't understand the depth of our feelings for our children.

I wish I could help. But, all I can do is share his pain and hope that there is way for him to maintain his relationship with them.

I'm really sorry that he and I both share the same hell and I'm sorry that I have no answers.

[Leed]

He needs to try and find some "dirt" on her -- afterall, that's basically what she did to HIM. Does she have this "guy" staying with her?? Does he spend the night with her when the kids are there? That's a No No!!! Does this guy pick up the kids at school? If he does, who gave the school permission for him to do that? Think of all kinds of things that you could GET her on, and take her to court!!! You can always protest this, but you're gonna have to do it FAST.

I wish you the best of luck. God bless & take care. Hugs, Lee

[IceCreamKid]

This is an extreme measure, but the children's father could move to the city where the children are moving. That is what I would do.

UGH!!!!!....Kids need their daddies.I just don't understand that.Parents should do all they can to keep things dignified despite their differences.I'm sorry if I seem over the top...but I just get so irritated when two adults can't sacrifice their baseness for the sake of children.It fully stains their offsprings relationship prospects.(((((Jennifer))))) ((((Gilead))))....and my other friend going through this...... Again,sorry for my attitude I just don't get why people can't set aside their selves for the larger good.