Mum left today

She's gone down to England to live with her mum and I won't be seeing her again until June. I'm still at uni so missed her leaving (last time I saw her was Sunday when I was home), but I'm dreading going home for the Easter break now - my sister's going to be on holiday for the first few days, and even when that's finished she's talking about staying at uni to revise for exams so it'd just be me and dad in the house, which would be really strange. Especially since he'd be at work during the week so it'd just be me in the house if my sister doesn't come home for the holiday as well...

Just had to get it out, sorry.

can you plan to do some fun things with your friends during this time? i'd do some thinking about spending the time doing things you'd enjoy while home. also you can spend some quality time with your dad in the evening.

That is very sad. I don't like major change like that either. I remember when my third brother went off to uni and it was just me and my parents at home; at first I accidentally still set the table for four, etc. It was so quiet too, one didn't know what to say to a parent without the "whole" interaction thing going on all the time! There weren't any distractions.

Why are you going home to your father instead of your mother (I take it you would prefer to see your mother?) Can you visit both in the time off? Do you know anyone down in England you can visit, a classmate maybe?

Thanks for replying, madisgram. I don't really have many friends at home, unfortunately. I'm going to try and meet up with some friends from school, but one of them's a two hour train ride from here and is likely to be staying at uni over Easter, and the other's a medic and is probably going to be studying as well, I think she has a work placement during the holidays... However, I'll hopefully be able to meet up with my boyfriend quite often, given that I won't have lots of deadlines to work towards - only one exam and one presentation after the holiday. He doesn't live particularly close to home, but he doesn't live very close to uni either and we still manage.

Dad isn't in the house very much in the evenings - he's in a mountain biking club and they meet up every week, plus he plays tennis - but hopefully we'll be able to spend some evenings together. My sister's holiday has been postponed until the summer so we're all going to IKEA on Sunday to replace some things mum took with her when she left...

Thanks, Perna. It is. That would be really strange, I'm quite glad I'm the older one in the family and didn't have to go through that...would have really sucked.

It's not that I'd "prefer" to see one or the other, it's just that I'm used to them being together and I'm still finding the separation quite difficult to accept, I think. It's easier if I'm at home rather than in England because it's closer to uni if I need to go back to visit the library and it's closer to my boyfriend and uni friends. I'll be visiting mum in June, and possibly again in September if I'm not too busy getting final year project stuff prepared.