[lxegirl]

So this is kinda dumb high school drama, but it is a serious issue and i have no idea what to do!!
This guy i am bringing to our spring formal (i'm a junior, he's a senior, we go to diff schools), i know him from church and we are good friends. He has a girlfriend who lives in state, but kinda far so he only sees her once a month. His girlfriend is a sophmore. She is going to her school's prom with a guy, and also my date's prom. He is rationalizing that it is ok by saying that he wants her to have a good high school experience and he does not want to ruin it for her...it makes no sense.
He compliments me alot in a more-than-friend way like saying i'm hot and that he likes my body and how he would go out with me if he didn't have a girlfriend. he has recently been giving me longer hugs and massages when i ask for one, ever since i asked him to go with me. My friend tells me not to be "that girl", but i'm not really doing anything. i'm not seductive or anything, he's just a total flirt and i dont know what to do. i do want him and his gf to break up because their relationship is just a waste of time since they never see eachother and he always complains about being lonely, but yet says that he loves her. idk what to do!!! advice?

What would you think if someone did the same thing to you?

[lxegirl]

well i mean, i'm not doing anything. he's making all the moves. i've told him how i feel about his relationship, and keep asking him if his girlfriend would be okay with it, to try and make him think, you know? but nothing is changing. idk what to do. i kinda like him.

[jenkins09]

You're young and will make mistakes from time to time. I think that this is one of those times. You know he has a girlfriend and he wouldn't be speaking to you like that if she was present.

Like Byz said, what if it was you? would you be okay with your boyfriend doing the same thing?

[lxegirl]

well its his fault...not mine.

Doing what is right is the most important thing.

[Vibe]

I'm wondering why you'd want to be involved with a guy like that. If he does it to her, then he'd probably fool around behind your back too. Sometimes relationships end and you grow more attached to someone else, but if this is the case he should be willing to end it with the other girl. Personally, I'd want whomever I was with to show a bit more integrity than he is. If he's not willing to end things with his current girlfriend, then I wouldn't accept his shows of affection. Just because he's making the first move doesn't mean that your allowing it isn't an action of itself. By doing nothing to 'stop him,' you're making an active choice to allow things to continue as they are. I wouldn't want to be involved in anything like that, by action or inaction.