[shooting.star]

I got out of a long term relationship five months ago which meant a lot to me. I went throug a lot during those first months after he left me. It was a long distance relationship and it was the distance which destroyed us. I met this guy finally who i loved talking to, felt comfortable with. He told me he doesnt want to have a relationship at first but then he said we could be exclusive as in we would only see each other nobody else. We started going out regularly and acting like a couple completely. Then one day after a month or so he said he cant do this anymore, and never wanted a relationship with me. He said hes sorry. He also said he was thinking about it for a while.. but then rises the question, why did he keep seeing me and kissing me, ect, like his girlfriend when he was thinking about it all the time, and how should I deal with this, I am completely lost and upset and I feel like I cant trust anyone anymore.

[Emotionally Dead]

That is definitely not a relationship you want to be in. If he is saying that he doesn't want to be in a relationship, but then that he doesn't want you to see anyone else, then that seems like a control issue. Plus, the fact that he says he doesn't want a relationship and then goes around and acts like you two are together there is something seriously wrong with him. You deserve better, and my advice would be to stop talking to him cold turkey.

Hope things get better for you

[shooting.star]

thank you I think I figured that out myself, which I am really happy about.I just gotta keep my head up and keep going