[UCLAFan]

due to some issues with my aunt i'm no longer invited to holidays.my uncle called my mom in texas to tell me i'm no longer invited.i think my aunt lied to my uncle and told him i cussed her out on facebook.because my mom asked me if i cussed anyone out.also most of my family try's to make people take sides etc.my aunt is known as a liar,mean,etc.my aunt is the one that sent me a nasty message on facebook.i was tempted to respond to her rudeness but i decided against it.if i respond to her she might post it so everyone see's it etc.that's how she normally works.my mom also thinks i should say i'm sorry to them.but to be honest i'm not sorry and i know they want more then that.the issues with my aunt and uncle have been going on for years.i have been told not to express my feelings to them and others.i already have 4th of july plans.but i might spend other holidays alone.

[JeanneDoe]

I'm sorry you are having a hard time with family. Maybe you can find someone else to sped the holiday with? Friends? Other family? If not maybe volunteer at a soup kitchen. It will feel good to give back, and seeing the smiles you make on others will bring you much holiday joy I am sure.
Best wishes and hugs.

[Impulsive1]

Seems like your mom and dad would avoid the family gatherings if their son/daughter are specifically not invited. However, if they continue and you're not welcome, you might enjoy getting together with your mom/dad on an alternate day for the holidays and enjoying the possibility of not having to be in that crowd. Looks like you're freed up from that ordeal now. Everyone else will understand why you're not there, and you don't have to put on a charade for anyone at all. Good luck with this.

[shezbut]

I'm sorry to hear about your family. Lies & repression ~ ugh!!

Retaining the relationships aren't as important as your own self-esteem and sense or worth. You deserve better! Maybe you're family will realize the sickness within and try to fix it, but it isn't worth sticking around for. When they are ready to be mature and deal with issues properly, then it's worth re-connecting.

Best wishes to you!