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i think i have aproblem .. & i cant do anything about it...
whenever i want to like a girl ..i only pick the most complicated girl around ..wich makes it harder for me to be with her or even to start dating her ... its like i like only girls with missed up minds ... i dont really know why ,,theres is alot of nice girls around who wants to be with me , but i simply do want to be with them ..wich makes some of them assume that im gay or not intrested in girls... i hope i can change this about me ..its just i really have this gift of pushing the right easy people away ..& chaising the wrong & hard people insted ,, i have lost so many chances to have a great & seriouse realation ship in my life ..& i have wasted so much time chasing people that may never wanna be with me ... im not so cute or so open & social ..& im still chaising the prettiest girls around & the most social girl ..wich end me up wasting time & feeling less good about my self , when on the other hand , good looking & prettty girls are okay , & willing to have a realationship with me , but are pushed away or rejected by me & by my missed up mentality.... i just wanna be happy .but i always pick the wrong people , people who always hurt me & dont wanna be with me , or already with someone els .. where can i start & how can i change this about me ? |
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Welcome! Glad you could post...I think you've already started by recognizing that you are concerned about your choice in women and that you are recognizing you can change this behavior!
Congratulations on that! Maybe the next step is to take a look at what draws you to them in the short-term, and what seems to be missing in the long run comparing that to the women you are not choosing. Hope that helps...
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Sounds like fear of intimacy. Fear of intimacy is frequently from low self worth.
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