cant take it anymore

Im so seriously lost and hurting so bad its becoming unbearable. I am in Therapy but its not helping. I just want my husband back. I want to raise our family together. I dont want this marriage to fail because he just gave up for no reason. Why cant he see that "I dont care" isnt a reason to throw everything away? Why not try to fix the problem? im so overwhelmed. Im trying to find a place to live that i can afford, i am going to be alone with 3 little ones for a year. And not even with the support from him that i was supposed to be getting. we were supposed to be there for eachother. I dont understand any of this. he cant even give me a real reason. i think i deserve at least that. but all i get is bullsh*t. why throw away a good woman, great family and a good marriage??? its not like we had been fighting for months....only a couple weeks. you dont throw away a marriage after 3 months because of a rough couple weeks. i just want to know what happened to my compassionate, kind, understanding husband. I want to make it better.

(((pallycoo)))) Sorry you are going through a difficult time. Would your husband agree to couple's counseling? Have you talked to your T about all this?

Sorry I don't have much for advice. But am here to listen. Sending you safe and gentle hugs.

He would only go to one session now he wont go back. yes the T knows it all

I really hate seeing you go through all of this. It's so painful, and especially since he won't/can't explain. What has your therapist said about everything? I know therapy can take time to really get into full swing -- it takes time to let walls down and start feeling comfortable enough to get at the root of issues, to be able to calm down and deal with emotions and thoughts rationally and objectively. It always hard to figure out what to do...

I hope you continue to attend therapy. Continue to work on yourself, being kind to yourself. Remember you are a good person, a loving wife and mother, worthy of love and happiness. You are not a failure. His reactions and feelings and thoughts are beyond your control. Do everything you can to take care of yourself, to make you and your children your number one priority.

Hello, pallycoo. Sorry this is happening.