[jules110]

Hi everyone, my name is Julie. lately i feel like im all alone in the world and have no one, and i mean no one to talk to or to turn to. this is my delima.
last year i was dating this guy name brian, were old friends for about 27 years, we just started dateing for about 2 years, my father became ill and i took brian to dinner and told him that my dad was ill and i felt i have to go and care for him, as i am the only family member that will step up. I told brian that i would understand if he didnt want to wait for me, cos i didnt know how long i would be, but we can fly back and forth to see each other, (we lived in colorado, my dad lives in SC), brian stated that we should get Married so that we CAN stay together, i agreed, and we did. meanwhile, my only son just returned from war, hes 23 and has issues such as depression, and guilt, i drove all the way from SC to Kentucky to see him and talk, he wouldnt talk to me, i asked the MP's to do a welfare check on him and they couldnt find him, not knowing that i could ruin my sons career by doing this, he dis-owns me for doing this to him, 1 month later my husband (after being married for only 8 months,) tells me he doesnt love me anymore and doesnt want to wait for me, and wants a divorce. then i turn around only now to find out that my only daughter is going to marry a guy in prison and ruin her life. these are the only ppl in my life i have left besides my dad, i cant talk to him cos hes ill, disabled, and i dont want him to worry. Im at my witts end, I have to drive to colorado this week to put my things in storage now bcos my husband wants my things out. anyone out there have any ideas on my stability?

[Silent_tsol]

Jules,
you are not alone and I'm sorry for everything that has happened recently.

You sound like a very caring and supportive person who is only look out for the best for everyone. Often times these people who will go out of their way to support others tend to put themselves on the back burner. Right now, I'd suggest put you as a priority, take care of you the way you would someone you love. I'm not saying to abandon anyone, you can remind them that you are there whenever they want to talk. But you can only control you. Try to take some time for yourself, read a book, take a bath, relax any way you can.

I don't have any kids so I'm not sure of any advice as far as how you can help them. Ditto for your husband/divorce issue.

So all I can really say is, take a deep breath, take it one step at a time. This too shall pass. And I know if might not seem very personable at first, but speaking to a counselor can help you sort things out, make a plan, and regain some stability. And they are experts listeners

[Rhiannonsmoon]

Hi Jules,,

Geesh you really have had a time of it. I know that there are times when it all seems to be falling in around us, but try letting it fall around you not on top of you. Your son was the architect of his own situation, if he had spoken to you, maybe he would have told you not to contact anyone (they would have noticed believe me), but he didn't. We both know you didn't intend anything to be amiss, you were just caring for him.

Your daughter! Wow I don't know what to say there. Though I do agree she isn't doing herself any favours. But you can only allow her to live her own life and make her own decisions and mistakes; be there for her, but don't be a doormat.

That person you married...hmmm I can only wonder if he had an ulterior motive... There is something not right about that and the way he did it.

I do hope things balance out for you, and remember you do have someone to talk to, you have us, so you're really never alone if you don't want to be hon, just hop online and chat to us...

Blessings,
Rhian