[palemoss]

so i have been texting with an old friend of mine since i moved back home for the summer (out of school) but now i am back for school to begin and have texted him that i am in the city and would like to hang.

our texts were always friendly and he did say he would like to take me out.

so it's been atleast 1 1/2 weeks since i got back here is what he has said/done thus far:

- was out of town when i arrived (this is true)
- didn't invite me to his concert the day he returned
- didn't invite me to his friend's concert (the next night)
- asked when i wanted to hang out - i said "friday or saturday if that's good"
- bailed on saturday because he is "moving stuff into storage"
- said sunday is better to hang.

ummmmmmmm? i know he has a **** buddy too and has been in a toxic relationship with her for the past 4 years.

i feel like i have no self-respect. and it's sad because i would be so good to him.

[protector1973]

sounds like hes busy and your american terminolgy for hang out is it similar to hook up or booty call. you want more , is what im percieving

[Perna]

It does sound like you are looking to start more than just to hang. But, it can be hard to get "started" when there's a new set-up? You both just got there, wait a bit and see if he doesn't come around once all the dust of your and his getting established from being away settles? I'd give him another weekend or two to make a move. But if he's got others he's been with, it might be hard for him to start a new pattern; maybe suggest you go to where he is?

Does he have to invite you to his concerts? Being invited the same day as the one when he just got back might have been too soon for him to think of.

[unaluna]

Originally Posted by palemoss

ummmmmmmm? i know he has a **** buddy too and has been in a toxic relationship with her for the past 4 years.

i feel like i have no self-respect. and it's sad because i would be so good to him.

I had this pattern in my younger days. After my last disaster, I finally figured out it is really kind of disrespectful to the object of your affections, because you are implying they have a problem (his being in a toxic relationship), and they need you to fix it. Plus if a guy wants a girl, he will definitely let her know (or so I've heard!). You have all the answers yourself within your posting, I wish I had been as smart at your age.
-hankster

[palemoss]

thanks alot for these replies.

i will just chill and be nice. and oh, yeah DO THE OPPOSITE OF HOW I FEEL! since that tends to work more so than acting on them.

[palemoss]

Originally Posted by protector1973

sounds like hes busy and your american terminolgy for hang out is it similar to hook up or booty call. you want more , is what im percieving

yeah, i'd like for us to date.