[palemoss]

okay so some of you may know that i was anticipating going out with a guy (we had been texting for a while before school started) but that last week it feel apart bc he flaked on me 3x in a row. which made me feel like crap.

i told him he was disturbed and vindictive and got really angry via text.

i just saw a picture of him from last week and it seems as if he had a cold sore (ew) on his lip that looked pretty bad....lol

i am thinking that could have been reason he did not want to see me last weekend and kept flaking, pushing our date back...bc he did still give the impression he liked me (or just wanted to keep me as a plan b in case his cougar loser **** buddy leaves him)

what do you think? should i apologize for calling him disturbed? i want to.

[shezbut]

I'm going to give you my opinion, since you've asked.

It sounds like you're looking to make excuses for him. You're disappointed and lonely, as you have looked forward to reigniting this romance for months. Please try to let go of him.

Either he isn't a man that you can be "just friends" with, or you're in a hurry to fill that void you feel inside. I have fallen into that sad tendency myself many times. Simply because I can't stand being single. I feel emotionally lost. Always on the hunt for someone to fill that void that has followed me throughout life.

Obviously, I should practice what I'm preaching to you. It's so much easier to see & advise others than to follow my own advice!

That's my opinion of what you should do. Hope that I haven't offended you palemoss.

[Leed]

I have to agree with Shezbut. It seems also that this guy is a little boy pretending to be a man. If that WAS the cause, that's sure pretty lame. So what if he had a "boo-boo" on his face? Would you have broken the date if you had a zit pop out that day? LOL No - cause you're more mature than that.

I don't think you should apologize. I think HE should. Besides, you don't want him thinking that you're desperate. LOL (((huggs))) Lee

[palemoss]

i know you guys are all right - i am desperately trying to fill a void. and i had so much hopes. also, i know i am way better than other girl he will ever meet and i wish he would realize that. perhaps, one day he will.

i did text him last night, not an apology but an "acknowledgment" that calling hims "disturbed and vindictive" was wrong.

and i feel alot better! i am the better more mature person now.

[StrongerMan]

A cold sore is more than just a boo boo. It carries a stigma as being herpes even though different than genital. Still contagious. Also, those sores can be large and painful and take a looong time to heal. They would definitely keep me from going out on dates. It is great that you were a stand up person and "apologized". But it has to be because you truly feel you were wrong. Not because you want to "one up" this guy. Maturity equals honesty and authenticity.