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Aug 08, 2011, 11:21 AM
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My husband has anger issues and needs help, he has promised he would get help for years, he has not gone. It affects are marriage. He knows he needs the help. When will he go? What can I do?
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Aug 08, 2011, 12:47 PM
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Are you getting help yourself? That is something you yourself can do, get good help and therapy. Eventually maybe you and your husband can go in for marriage therapy, maybe he will eventually get the help he needs individually. But ultimately the person for you to focus on is yourself.
You can be a good role model for him by you taking good care of yourself. Get good support, set some healthy boundaries, enjoy your life. If you are in an unsafe situation please get help and safety right away.
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Aug 08, 2011, 01:42 PM
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I have gone for help numerous times, seen a few therapists - time go to back again I know this. I have been focusing on myself but maybe I need to MORE. I know thats the first step I can take.
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Aug 08, 2011, 02:09 PM
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Hello, curlygirl1973. When last did your husband have a physical? If it has been awhile, see if he will agree to one. Since unhealthy anger can have a physical dimension, you might ask the doctor about it if your husband will consent to your going with him.
Ultimately, the idea is to get your husband to a doctor and perhaps having him referred to an authorized mental health professional for a psychological assessment. Good luck. |
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Aug 08, 2011, 07:27 PM
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He is on blood pressure meds already...he is under doctors care and gets blood work done...he needs to see a therapist - I mentioned tonight about marriage counseling, he doesnt thing it will work, he needs anger managment...I am just lost...
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Aug 08, 2011, 07:33 PM
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It was my experience living with an angry man that he did not accept personal responsibility for his anger and his behaviors. He blamed me. "You did --- and made me mad, it's your fault". Does he say that to you?
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Aug 08, 2011, 07:38 PM
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Oh YES YES AND YES Yoda, everything is my fault most of the time, I just ignore it...I know thats not true but it hurts...pretty bad
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Aug 08, 2011, 08:32 PM
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My post here may be helpful: http://forums.psychcentral.com/showthread.php?t=192724
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This is an old thread. You probably should not post your reply to it, as the original poster is unlikely to see it.|
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