Do looks matter????

i was just wondering do looks really matter in a relationship or does the whole personal??
and can someone be 'in love' by just having fallen for the other person due to their looks mostly...because they havnt really interacted???

Well, TO ME, looks are a factor. However, that isn't the only thing I consider when I'm thinking of starting a relationship with someone.

So, it depends on who you ask.

While I've always been attracted to my fiance, I found the more I got to know him and liked what I saw inside, I began to find him even more attractive on the outside.

I think physical attraction helps to start a relationship (wood for the fire), but once the fire really gets going, it takes other things to keep it alive. If a relationship is solely based on looks, though, I believe it'll eventually sour because looks aren't lasting.

There was an interesting experiment done with speed dating. In round 1 people were asked to come sit at a person's table for a minute, don't say anything. They were being rated as to how likely the other would want to go on a date with them. In a round 2, they would sit and talk for 5 minutes about themselves and then get rated. Ratings from round 1 and round 2 were almost identical, i.e. personality did not matter. In women the critical aspect that made them attractive was hip to waist ratio, in men height. Quite pathetic.

That's how attraction works. But that is NOT how relationships work.

First impressions are often based on looks because you don't really know the person. So I guess looks do matter in a sense. Personally, looks don't prevent me from getting to know a person, but it is nice for someone to keep up with their personal hygiene.

To me I try not to care about looks but we're human we will no matter what.

There is nothing wrong with finding someone physically attractive, but sometimes good looks are a compromise for bad personality. I would never have a relationship with someone based on looks. I actually rarely come across a guy Id look twice at, I really do not get attracted physically.

looks do matter to meet up with your expectation of an ideal partner which has developed over the years beacuse of what u consider as atrractive in looks and behaviour. it can only probably reveal that the person has attractive features running in their family genes and probably good health.but this i consider is only the first step to gauge if the person is right. this is the easiest part . the important and more dfficult part is to understand the real person as this is what will determine a long term relationship. you sure will not think about a persons beauty when he is insulting you or bashing your head against the wall.
take time to understand and evaluate the loved one before u decide to give away your heart and more.

People fall in love at first sight all the time. It is biologically programmed into our species. There is documented proof of why looks DO count. It is all about symmetry and signaling to a mate that you're genes are fit for survival.
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The structure of a person's face also gives insight to fertility.

Estrogen caps bone growth in a woman's lower face and chin, making them relatively small and short, as well as the brow, allowing for her eyes to appear prominent, Thornhill explained. Men's faces are shaped by testosterone, which helps develop a larger lower face and jaw and a prominent brow.

Men and women possessing these traits are seen as attractive, Thornhill said, because they advertise reproductive health.

Thornhill also points to the booming nip-‘n'-tuck business—which is very much about improving a person's symmetry—as evidence that people find the quality attractive.

Another recent study revealed that symmetrical dancers are seen as more attractive."

Quoted from:The Rules of Attraction in the Game of Love
Bjorn Carey

I believe looks may play a part in a relationship but it shouldn't be the ONLY thing that you look for. I'm in high school and a lot of relationships just start off with looks; personality comes last. Often than not, relationships that just are solely based on looks last about... 2 weeks. I have dated a few guys and a lot of friends thought that he wasn't "hot enough" for me. -_- I thought they were actually descent guys compared to the ones that they were dating. The boyfriend of my friend had gotten a girl pregnant and never knew until she was in the end of her second trimester.

NEVER let others tell you who you should date. Looks do fade..

For me, yeah, looks do play a role. I can't say whether I would fall 'in love' with someone based on looks alone because I cannot say I've ever actually been 'in love'. I can say, however, that most of my relationships (save for two - one in which I'd known my partner for two years before the relationship developed, and one in which my partner pretty much had me wrapped around her little finger) have been started because I found the other person physically attractive. I think the physical attraction did play a large part in how long the relationships lasted... of course, so did the other persons personality but I cannot deny that physical attraction didn't play its role.

thankyou

in my case,he has become my ideal. his built,his height,..i just cant think anyone 's perfect if ther're not like him!! i like everything about him..even when he treats me bad. i mean i dont particularly Like it when he doesnt treat me well,but i dont hate him for it either. im not sure whether its just his looks or entire personality. im even unable to express what im thinking properly.