do i tell him i am borderline?

i am "dating" a guy who just got out of a 5 year on again/off again relationship. when we hang out it is very intense - the slightest thing ticks us off, and the last two times we went out it ended quite bad (i.e. both of us decided not to see each other anymore because we both feel like something is weird between us).

but the truth is i am madly in love with this guy. at the same time, i am reeling from a very difficult year that has made me realize alot about myself (e.g. abuse, economic problems, substance abuse) and i am just not ready to have reckless sex with him.

my question is - do i tell him that my behavior is partially due to being very (high-functioning) borderline? i have no emotional skin. my feelings for him are driving me insane, and i cannot really be normal.

when i am around him: i am very quite, start getting drunk, look down OR start blathering about all intellectual jargon and how i have such a great job and don't ever need a man (LOL).

should i just tell him: "hey, i am borderline. had a horrible childhood, was raped, and have never been loved by a guy."

i am unsure why he is still into me - i am weird as hell. but i haven't sex with him yet either. and don't really plan to. if there is one thing that has changed as result of therapy, it's the resistance to impulsive sex with random guys.

palemoss it's good you are learning in therapy ways to change self-destructive behaviors. i did too.
as for your guy, maybe take it slow. you need to continue to work on those things that you discovered in therapy before you can have a meaningful relationship, imo. if it were me i'd not want to lay it out there-bpd-as yet. it just complicates everything. you're not being dishonest you're just protecting yourself at this time. many ppl have no understanding of our disorders. it scares them. give it time and continue to work on yourself. you can still enjoy him and his company.