Age Differences

Do you guys think age really makes a difference when it comes to love and is it going to affect a relationship when the couple gets older? Here’s the thing, my girlfriend (Mandy) is four years older than me. This isn’t a problem to me and I think I’m attracted more to older woman. My first girlfriend (Jessica) was four months older than me and my best friend (Rachel) who was my second love even though she was a lesbian was three years older than me.

When Mandy was out yesterday I was having a conversation with my parents and they said they think she might be too old for me which I think was a very hypocritical statement considering my father is six years older than my mother. My parents have never been great for advice and they were basically never there for me when Jessica passed away but they got me thinking. Should I be worried about this or just ignore them because they are trying to mess with my head again?

I love Mandy and she loves me and nothing can change the way I feel about her. This is the woman I want to marry one day and grow old with and I want her to be the mother of my children too. I just don’t want her to feel uncomfortable with it when we are older. She looks more like she’s only twenty one or twenty two and I don’t think many people can tell she is older than me. She never tries to ‘mother’ me because of our age difference but she is more experienced with some things than I am and I have already learned a lot from being with her.

Even though I've pretty much failed at relationships across the board, 4 years is nothing to worry about.

My first wife was 6 years older than me and it was never an issue. Of course there were other issues but that was not one of them.

You can't even joke about her robbing the cradle with only a 4 year age difference.

Good luck and much happiness with her....

4 years i don't think is a thing to worry about. My boyfriend like you parents is about 6 years older than i and i don't feel it's a problem he sometimes asks why am i not with someone closer to my age but i love him and trust him more than anyone in my past. I do worry about when we are older cause he's older than i, and usually women i thought i heard out live men. but i try not to dwell on that cause who knows and all that matters right now is now, the future has yet to be written i don't think 4 years is too big of i gap now if it was a decade gap with adults or 30 years with adults, then idk depends on the ppl in play still. Love i think has a power

I forget what your ages are exactly, but I don't think the age difference matters that much in this case. It's not like you're a high school senior dating someone about to graduate from college. In that instance, four years is a lot because life experience differs a lot (Not always the case, but generally one is still finding his/her way into adulthood, but also still firmly rooted in adolescence, while the other is considered an adult, expected to take care of him/herself completely, with a job, paying bills, food, rent, etc.).

I also feel that you have been through a lot, and your experiences have helped you to mature, which will also even out age differences. I believe that it's not a problem when both people feel that they can learn from the other but also share things with the other, and that neither feels the need to be responsible for the other a majority of the time. It doesn't matter what others think as long as you are both comfortable.

Also, side note, my fiance's dad is ten years older than his mom.

Four years isn’t really a large age gap unless one of you is in their early to mid teens. Then I would say it is a problem. I would have a huge problem with a 20 year old dating my 16 year old. But once you’re 18 – 20 four years is a drop in the bucket in my opinion.

Thanks guys. I probably shouldn't let the age difference worry me because it isn't that big. I'm twenty four and she is twenty eight and she is actually only three and a half years older than me. I am going to be twenty five on the 26th December. I just want everything to be right for her because I love her

My boyfriend is 8 years older than me, and if anything it helps our relationship. He has more experience than I do and it helps counterbalance my inexperience at times. I think age can affect a relationship in certain ways, I realize that as our relationship progresses and we both get older that somewhere down the road I will be in a caregiver postion with him, but I love my bf and that is something I am willing to provide. Every relationship has it's pro's and cons.