Boyfriend shares same bed as 8 1/2 year old

Am thinking that since the mother is a "meth addict" that maybe she wasn't/isn't emotionally available for her daughter. Nothing worse for "young children" to be left to just "exist" and not feel loved. When a mother isn't emotionally available, I think it is wondeful that the "father" is available.

Divorce hurts children..And maybe the "father" is over doing it by giving his daughter extra attention; I see no harm in this. As for his daughter sleeping with him, I again see no problem with this. AM sure, when the "fire" from the divorce settles and the father gets custody, the little girl "in time" will want her own space/bedroom.. Just my opinion

I'm not taking your boyfriend's side, because every situation is different, but merely sharing my experience with you. My parents were teenagers when I was born. Mum couldn't handle life(undiagnosed bp?) & turned to prostitution, drugs & alcohol. My dad stepped up & raised me. We showed each other affection & slept together (I had lots of nightmares). That is until I started developing & my mum's mum found out I slept in his bed. Because adults put their own sick thoughts & meanings into it, my dad was investigated. He was really scared that he'd lose me, so suddenly, with no transition, I was no longer allowed to sleep in his bed, sit on his lap, wrestle him etc. With little to no explanation I did what all kids do & blamed myself. I started all of the negative self-talk that is the result of kids getting mixed messages. I thought that my dad didn't love me anymore & that all of the changes were because I'd done something wrong. This irreversibly damaged my relationship with my father & started me on a downward path. I'm still affected today by the apparent with-holding of love & affection, by the only "safe" person I had.
Anyway, I hope that helps you see it from a different side. If you have any questions, fire away.