[bridgie]

i txt a guy and have for months he tells me he has feelings. i havent had a chance to meet him due to life. at first it was all happy and learning about him now i dont know if we are even really friends. he stopped acting the same. now i cant respond the same. i am not going to txt him all day if he doesnt text me back. or at all. there used to be a good morning but not anymore. not even good nights.
we arent anything are we.

[bridgie]

We txt a lot tonight he asked to be txt gf whatever that is. I am content for now. But I know I want to meet someday whether bf/gf or not just as friends even. He told me things wld go painfully slow. I don't know if I can handle that but I said that was fine. For now. I have a feeling I am getting myself set up to be burned. And by my own hand.

[Raindropvampire]

I'd say your instincts are right and you are being set up. This doesn't sound right to me. I will admit I'm a bit out of the loop when it comes to technology but REALLY a text GF? I'd be asking if he only wants a text GF because he already has someone in his real life. I hope it works out ok for you.

[bridgie]

I am giving myself a time limit for this to turn rl. And if it doesn't I am moving on. I don't have time nor energy to put into something that won't ever happen. Each day I go thru the list of why it won't work and why it will and each day the list of why it will seems to shrink. I find myself each day growing apart rather than together. I don't know his feelings except he wants to go slow. Painfully slow. Painfull for me is what he means. Why do I do this to myself? Why am I not worth rl?

[eskielover]

You need to find someone IRL to start with & meet really & let a friendship/acquaintance grow into something more.

I wouldn't waste my time on someone who is just string you along like this in hopes that it would turn into something more. If you don't start with a real open person whose is immediately willing to make the relationship real & not just leave it to technology, you are always going to end up with nothing but technology relationships.

My horse vet in California met a lady through a Christian online dating service, but they were both immediately willing to meet each other & learn more about each other than just surface chat stuff.

I wouldn't waste my time txting or anything else with this guy.....being a txtgf is all you would ever end up being if that's what he wants you to be now.

You may have problems meeting people IRL, but the bottom line is that one cannot have a real relationship that isn't real from the beginning. Too much unknown about this person for too long IMO. Drop this & go try to find a real caring person who wants to really KNOW you.

[googler.z]

You know...hmmm...perhaps the guy is dealing with much more than you know. Perhaps he's not who he was when you first started texting him due to unforeseen circumstances. Perhaps he's going to be one being burned in this. Sometimes the timing isn't right. Sometimes for one party, sometimes for both. Maybe...the best thing he can do is to let you go. I'm pretty sure he thinks you deserve real life as well. If you need something more than he's able to give you atm, maybe he really does care enough to understand that. Maybe you should talk to him about it as frankly as you have on here. Apologies in advance for the stalkerish creepiness, love.

[bridgie]

We all change with life and as time goes on. That's just a part of it. Its if you can grow and change and still stick together that shows and tells a lot. I know he's been through a lot and I've been there being as supportive as I can. I cld do more I feel if it was rl. I'm put into helpless mode by it staying in txt. If he can't really give me what I need then I have to accept that. Rl isn't possible. He still has been great to talk to and I don't want to give that up. I have some thinking to do

[Open Eyes]

I have never texted, but I have seen people do it and it just seems to me that it is very habit forming and time consuming. And I see the younger crowd doing it constantly. I am very on the fence about wether it is healthy or not to be honest.
I have seen good things about it though, as I have seen my daughter work and occassionally test with a friend to cut the stress. As long as someone isn't tied to it all day perhaps it is ok.

A text girlfriend? and for what? Sounds strange to me.

[bridgie]

I've made up my mind about what I am going to be doing. Ty all for your input.