I really really really dislike him...

If it were my nature, I would hate him. With every fiber of my being this man makes my skin crawl and makes my blood boil. I wish I was done with him. I wish he would vanish and be gone for good, be gone from me. Just disapear but he wont go away. My daughters father. I chose wrong in that one for sure. I left him because he was horrible. Verbal abuse from every direction and physical abuse to keep things interesting I guess. He broke me down and finally I had the strength to leave for her sake. I moved across country only bringing what I could fit in my 2 door hatch back. My daughter cramped in the back seat. I lived in my car for 6 months trying to hold a steady job with him bouncing and neglecting support checks. I finally got court ordered child support which included him helping pay for child care costs. He's being a douch about it and refuses to pay a dime more. He makes 4200 a month, I make 900 a month. I work 40 hours a week and am paying 500 a month in day care alone.

I do not like him.... I want to say it but my religion will not let me... I wish he would go away. He knows just what to say to get to me. He threatens all of the time when I say something he doesn't like to have my daughter taken away. He's had the cops come to my house before just because he was mad at me. I... hat... I can't say it but I want to! Oh he makes me so mad! He does everything in his power to make me mad. He cares about no one but himself and he tries to act like he cares for my child but he does everything to prove otherwise. ugh I want to scream, I want to rip my hair and eyes out when his name is mentioned. I just do not like this man.

Sorry for ranting but I try so hard, I work full time I'm a single mom and over 1/2 my pay checks go to day care alone. I spend every extra dime I have for my child. I buy her toys over my own deoderant, no matter how broke I am I make sure she's in a good child care center and has good clean clothes, everything she needs and then some. I try and try and try and hit a dead end any time he comes around. Oh I do not like him.....

I am sorry you feel this way and that this man won't leav eyou alone. I hope he isn't abusive anymore, although I'm sure that threatening to take your child away is bad enough. if wanted.

I wish I had an immediate answer for your situation.

If your government offers it, I am sure you can find some local help to get this man to pay for his own child. Maybe there is such a thing as an intermediary to assist?

Also, maybe your area offers help with child and sanitary needs. Sometimes if you type shelter, help, and donations into a search engine (like google), as well as the location that you are in, you might at least be able to get deodorant.

Some people seemingly have this issue where they need to make someone suffer for some dark reason that is only their own. This person really needs help. It is too bad that he doesn't realize it.

Keep taking care of yourself and your child. You must be doing good regardless of him. I am glad that you're loving your child the same through it all. You are a good mom. Don't forget that!

since your financial burdens are not enough to be able to really provide your child with her needs why not try legal aid? a lawyer would be assigned to let you know if going back for more child support in the courts is appropriate.
as for your ex i'd suggest only minimal conversation. if it's not concerning "a need to know" about your child i'd tell him i'd rather not discuss anything else. u already know he's verbally abusive. giving him a response other than that opens the door for him to be abusive, imo.

Hello, PurpleFlyingMonkeys. Have you talked to your county social services to find out what assistance you and your daughter may be entitled to? In order to obtain assistance you likely will be required to assign your right to make your ex accountable for assistance for the benefit of his child to the county. Doing so means the county would have the right to go after your ex with whatever enforcement options the law provides.

I wish you well.

Hi PurpleFlyingMonkeys,

I have been in your shoes and am proud of you. Sounds like you have your priorities in order and thats a great accomplishment. Much of the advice given to you today is spot on so for me to repeat the information would be, well repetitive (imagine that).

Keep up the good work,

PurpleFlyingMonkeys

I am also having a similar experience with my X husband.... He tries everything he can to upset me to say the least. You are not alone in your frustration and pain. Thinking of you...

apart from the great info u have got above...you are a good mom that makes you a good person and the lord will give you strength and patience thru this rough phase of your life. be strong be practical and always look at the light at the end of this tunnel..., so sending you lots of hugs

I know how you feel. My summer has been a stressful one. I am dealing with betrayal and disrespect.

I'm so sorry you are dealing with this. Coming from a divorced family, I watched my parents have utter hate and loathing for each other and it was pretty terrible but not as terrible as if they had stayed together "for the kids". Just try to focus on the fact that, with having even an ounce of peace to not be with him 24/7...you are a better mother.